I'm in an LTR with my wife (11 years now). We've both put each other through a lot of shit. We are both working on our shit. It's much better now. I have no interest (and neither do you) in regaling you with a play-by-play. But I have been on the red pill path for about a year now, and she has responded really well.

Here's where we are now: she finally accepts that she has a serious problem with anger (probably depression). She's getting on meds for it, and will start going to a therapist soon.

While researching anger issues in a spouse, I saw mention of passive-aggressive behavior being a possible trigger. I've heard of it before, and when I read descriptions/motivations of the behavior, the picture is disturbingly familiar.

So in the interest of making myself a better man, I want to confront this head-on. But I need some guidance, because my googling has produced little in the way of resources for overcoming passive-aggressive behavior.

Fellow TRP travelers: how do I confront this and overcome it? It hampers my growth in personal relationships and in my career.

Thanks.