What have steps have you taken to be more Authentic & Honest with women?

TheMinistryOfAwesome · 2015-12-12T14:30:52+00:00

I told them that I'm not really hugely interested in a long term thing, i'll hang out be friends and just generally have fun - but my intentions are to have sex with them. I've been very clear about that.

The biggest step, if it can be called that, is that I'm now okay with making sure that I get what I want - if it goes against what she wants then that's cool, we just go our own way.

I still struggle on occasion with this kind of thing today (nowhere near as much as in the past) , I'm not totally okay with who I am. I find it quite difficult not to compare myself against other people and be fine with myself in isolation. I guess that's more to do with a very competitive spirit. But as I do get closer to zen of "I am who I am who I am" I just find that awesome keeps on coming.

"I don't want you telling me about your problems with work colleagues.. you have friends for that." - I was called a dick for that, but she still had to try and sass me a few more times. "This is what you could have had" kind of pictures being sent to my phone. The girl was pretty clingy.

"Oh you're busy on tuesday? Spending time with your other women?" "Yes i am" - I flat out told them i was seeing other girls. One or two flaked but I think she had different issues that caused it. Most of them seemed relatively unphased by it.

AFter spending an entire night with a girl who i'd pulled over so my friend could game her - he kind of didn't take the bait and she was flirting with me - I ended up making out with her, kind of doing some public naughty stuff and then on the way back to walking to my room I kind of got scared. I was pretty drunk, wasn't far out of long term relationship. I kinda floundered around my words a bit because I wanted her, but i was scared. Instead of actually just telling her this I made some shit up like: "Oh well, you're cool, next time i'll totally be fucking you.." - she walked off and never spoke to me again.

This highlights one night where I was authentic, honest, and pretty obvious in my intentions all night until I kind of pussied out and flaked on her after kind of bullshitting a bit. I got intimidated, scared of whisky dick and maybe a bit too new to the whole thing. The painful thing is, she was hot as fuck, blonde, had a twin (who i'd already joked about having a threesome with) and had told me in as many words that she was really eager to suck my cock. Fail.

Title	What have steps have you taken to be more Authentic & Honest with women?
Author	accountrel
Upvotes	2
Comments	3
Date	December 12, 2015 11:37 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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