Recently I've been making a conscious effort in touching women while interacting with them in social situations, because I realised it was something I needed to work on.

Because I've just started kino, it doesn't seem entirely natural, which is normal because I'm not used to it. I have to kind of force myself to do it. What used to hold me back was thinking whether or not the girl I'm talking to will find me creepy or feel awkward around me. Since making this decision to make an effort in kino, I realise it's the opposite effect.

Some girls that I've met on nights out have responded quite positive. What I've noticed is when you apply kino, you will get kino back. Girls touch me back. They rest their hand on my shoulder. They touch my lower arm if they have something interesting to say, or if I've teased them in some way. When I kiss a girl at a bar, they like to lock hands and guide me to where they want us to go to. On the dancefloor they like holding hands and being spun around, like a princess :P. And when we sit down next to each other, a couple of girls I've met like to rest their hand on my knee/leg.

Because I've been very conscious of myself touching more women, I think I notice more that women touch me back, even when they've only JUST met me for the first time. It must be a great sign if a girl is responding to you in that sort of way if she's doesn't know a huge amount about you.

On the other hand, I still hit a brick wall. Once when I was with a girl I liked at a bar, I wanted to kiss her on the dancefloor. But she was quite distant, and whether we were close I would put my arm around her waist for a few seconds, then let go and do nothing. I was too afraid to escalate. She didn't respond badly to when I touched her waist, but she didn't respond at all. I really liked this girl, and we got along, but I was too afraid to take the plunge. I know that it takes time and practice.

So what I've learned since I've started kino:

  • Apply kino, and you'll get kino BACK.
  • Consciously force yourself to make an effort touching a girl while interacting with her. Do this again and again until it is natural to you and you don't have to think twice about it.
  • It's a good sign when a girl is touch you too, especially when she's only just met you for the first time.