Hey there everyone :)

There is this persistent myth that (somewhat logically) you go to pull a girl from the bar/club/party and she rejects your advances all of the following will happen:

a) you will lose her that night for pushing too hard

b) You will have no chance in the future with her or her friends

c) any woman who saw that will no longer be amenable to your approach.

Well they're all the opposite! Allow me to explain.

If you're trying to get a girl to a sex location, the first step is to bounce her across the room. "It's too cold here/let's sit down/fresh air/think someone farted". If she won't move with you then move on you would never have gotten her. The second step is either a pull outside for "a walk" ending at a sex location (advanced) or a pull to a restaurant/other bar, followed by your house for one more drink... if at any one of these stages RINSE REPEAT. She will say no the first time just to make you chase harder so she feels like a prize. Oblige her. You are not the prize. You are the man. You win the trophies, you don't fucking act like one.

If she leaves at any step great, she will respect you more for having pushed. The closer you get to sex the greater her investment and the more likely you are to see her again UNLESS said activities transpired in public. Then she feels like a ho yo.

She will also tell ALL her friends. That's a good thing. If you're the guy whose dick she sucked at the local Boules club (true story) then OF COURSE you're going to be hot, have a big penis, etc etc. Do you think she's going to tell the story to her friends as "I sucked this guy ricky off omg he was so boring, also I could barely see his stubby half-prick under his rolls of fat..." No. Girls exaggerate their lays just the same as men.

Lastly, if a hot girl sees you try and fail to pull a girl out the venue what is she actually seeing? I'll let you guess. Got it? Yep that's right, she is seeing you leading a girl around at worst. At best she's seeing you walk a hot girl out and come back alone, ie you're a cool safe guy hot girls want to be around. She'll assume it's your friend who you waited for a taxi with.

This pickup shit isn't normal guys. Stop viewing yourself through it's lens because it is most definitely not how other people view you.