You're sitting court-side at a Lakers game. They're losing. All of a sudden you see a short white dude enter the game. And he looks way too young to be playing pro. Instantly, you sense that something's wrong. You don't want to be racist, but you know for a fact that white dudes this small don't play in the NBA. Surprised, you watch him as he tucks in his jersey and takes his place on the court. The game starts. At first he seems to know what he's doing. He's guarding someone, he's in the right position. The game goes on for a couple minutes and you think he may be alright. And he is for a couple minutes. But as the game goes on you can tell he's out of place. It's obvious. Everyone else is way taller than him and has been playing basketball their entire lives. This kid looks like he's brand new to the game. Suddenly he's getting dunked on and his shots are getting blocked eight rows into the stands.

This is what pops into my head when I see posts or hear guys who have basically no experience with women, asking for help on how to approach, game and close girls all in one fell swoop.

Yesterday I read a post where a guy claimed he had zero experience with women; and he wanted to know how he should have approached and closed a girl in a club. Taking that leap is like me trying to play for the Lakers tomorrow.

Why not take small steps? Why not just try to say hi and smile at her first? What's the rush to "close" her when you have too much anxiety to even approach her?

You can't go from bagging groceries to being the CEO in one night. I can't go from just starting a business to closing million dollar deals by next week. Same goes with attracting and seducing women. If you struggle approaching and starting a conversation, just start there. Focus on that until you become comfortable with it.

I know that reading PUA and other shit can make you think that you need to be "banging tens" and "getting puss" immediately or you're a loser. PUAs can do it right?

Don't listen to that bullshit. If you take things at your own pace, embrace where you're at and you're honest about it (with yourself and the women you're with) all this shit will become simple and it will actually be enjoyable. There won't be a pressure to perform and you can laugh at the small failures along the way.

You don't have to impress your friends. She doesn't care how smooth you are. You probably don't either when you really think about it.

Take it slow. Embrace where you're at. Then go take action.