How to keep calm and be more confident during conversations with attractive women or high value people?

lenes010 · 2016-03-31T22:26:56+00:00

Honestly meditating helps a ton to be in control of your own mind! Instead of identifying with your thoughts "I'm so nervous" you get to watch them go by. It's a really cool sense of calm.

It's exactly like this https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7xAeJKgupPI

I like the 'headspace' app and it's take 10 program.

FrightenedInmate3 · 2016-04-01T02:33:19+00:00

A lot of it is just going through the awkwardness of the first few conversations until you start hitting a rhythm.

CrushHazard · 2016-04-01T05:30:32+00:00

The first time I got involved in a conversation with a super ultra hot female, I was 18 years old and had just graduated. She was a year younger and still went to the same school I just graduated from.

At the time, I just couldn't believe that a woman like that would want a guy like me. I knew what my ex looked like, and I knew what she looked like, and I just thought to myself, "no way, not possible. I don't know why she's talking to me over here away from everyone else all alone and acting like she's into me, but it couldn't be because she's into me because she's the hottest girl in this coffee shop, and I'm not the hottest guy in this coffee shop. Can't be true."

I'm not exaggerating. That is literally what was going through my head at a million miles a minute. It took me at least four years to learn that any woman could like any guy for any reason, and you should not question it.

This doesn't mean that every woman is attracted to you, just that every woman could be attracted to you. You still need to be able to read her signs. Believe it or not, I was a much more fearless and more natural guy at 18 than I was at 19-22. I got more self-conscious as time went on and lost my ability to properly flirt. That backsliding infuriated and depressed me.

When talking to hot women, you really need to forget about yourself and focus on her. Once I started moving the focus off of me and onto the woman, that's when everything changed.

Do you just plan on setting the expectations low in a conversation?

I don't know what you mean by this, but it doesn't sound good. Your expectations should be high, but your disappointment if things don't work out should be low. Every hot girl you talk to could be the one that takes a liking to you. As cheesy as this sounds, it all comes down to compatibility. How she feels about you is a result of her life experience up to that point. Maybe her ex was a handsome, burly dude who treated her poorly and cheated on her, and she's been fantasizing about a guy like you for the last six months and here you are. You will never know unless you focus on the signals that she is giving to you.

As an example, my significant other revealed to me years after we got together that she had a huge crush on Jason Segel. She regularly hates on all the handsome, buffed out dudes that you see on TV and in the movies, and she is all about Jason Segel. And she is hot -- perfect 10 and all that. I must admit that my look and vibe are quite Jason Segel-like. That was the core of her attraction to me, and I literally never could have guessed it at the time. I once read an interview with an SI Swimsuit model where she said she had a huge crush on Jack Black. Again, not kidding at all. That's just the way women work. They like what they like, and especially if they are hot, they don't care what anyone thinks about their taste.

franhd · 2016-04-02T02:42:58+00:00

The first step is to stop assigning "high value status" to people. It's superficial and doesn't mean anything.

TheLyons · 2016-04-01T13:19:00+00:00

Some people have mentioned meditation, this guy talks a lot about meditation as well as other personal development topics. Bonus: He's into pickup/seduction: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v99YFYPCqU8

Title	How to keep calm and be more confident during conversations with attractive women or high value people?
Author	upandup123
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Comments	9
Date	March 31, 2016 10:17 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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