Referring to Mark Manson's "Models," could someone provide an example of being vulnerable?

kylemaster38 · 2016-04-14T20:04:53+00:00

Vulnerability is putting yourself in a position to be rejected and not caring if you are or not. Using that definition I want you to think of some examples.

pipboy90 · 2016-04-14T21:24:49+00:00

I just mentioned this book in another thread. I'll give you a specific example that happened when I was trying to practice being more vulnerable with women. This occurred in the dining hall of my university (on different days)

I caught eyes with a really cute girl sitting at a table across from me while eating lunch with my friends. The thought of getting up and introducing myself to her and her friends in the middle of lunch was intimidating and scary, but it's something I always thought would be cool to pull off, regardless of whether or not I was rejected. Anyway, her group gets up and heads towards the front of the building to leave. I decide this is my chance. I get up and head towards the entrance with my tray. After dropping it off, I see her talking with her two friends nearby the doors. I'm freaking out internally at the thought of interrupting her and telling her I thought she was cute. I had never been this blunt with a girl I had never met before...oh god kill me now

"Excuse me...". She turns around. Her friends look at me and then start talking to themselves.

Me: "Hi! I thought you were really cute and I wanted to say hello. My name's [pipboy90]." (Wow that was suprisingly smooth, good job me)

Her: "Oh, thanks!" She smiles a bit but doesn't say anything else.

Wow, she really is cute. Wait, what are words again?

It is now that my mind completely shuts down and I try to form coherent sentences in an attempt to ask her on a coffee date. This part of the conversation is a blur to me. I remember something about donuts. Anyway, I somehow get her number and part ways, walking away grinning like an idiot. It honestly felt amazing and I was proud of myself for doing something for once. In the end it turned out she gave me a fake number, but I didn't care.

The next week or so I approached another cute girl sitting with her friends on my way out of the dining hall, introduced myself, said I thought she was hot and wanted to get coffee with her. This was a much smoother interaction than before. She said she had to break up with her boyfriend first (no joke), but she would let me know. Next day, she adds me on Facebook and takes me up on my offer. She complimented me on my confidence. "Not many guys do that." That was really cool to hear :)

magicplayer123abc · 2016-04-14T20:36:12+00:00

It means you put your neck on the line first, it can be something simple like an approach or opening up about a personal issue first to a girl you've known for a while.

MikeValentine · 2016-04-14T21:11:37+00:00

I think a direct approach on a quite busy train would be an example. If you get rejected, there is no 'see you bye' escape.

Title	Referring to Mark Manson's "Models," could someone provide an example of being vulnerable?
Author	iStanley
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Date	April 14, 2016 7:38 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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