Being left outta the loop.

cascadecombo · 2014-07-03T09:31:34+00:00

"lol" "love her" "two months"

you still in highschool?

TenderRacingPumpkin · 2014-07-02T23:32:49+00:00

Get. The Fuck. Out.

Two months is nothing. You will have lost nothing of value. You will have wasted very, very little time with this pursuit.

Suicide, self harming, depression and similar issues are none of your business. These people need to go and get medical help.

You are the number one priority in your life. You will be dragged down by these people. You will feel empathy for them and subsequently feel like shit every day. This is only your problem because you choose to let it be your burden. Don't do it.

You need to excel in everything you do and that is impossible if you are dealing with shit like this. Cut out the fat from your life and start the journey to being the best man you can be.

Next her.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2014-07-03T00:48:54+00:00

She never goes into detail unless I push for details.

Don't push for details.

Do something fun and exciting that YOU enjoy doing and invite her along.

I thought relationships are about sharing.

Only if and when she is bringing value to you first.

[deleted] · 2014-07-03T03:14:48+00:00

Ignore it. These things are hard to deal with for anyone and very personal. It is your duty to be emotuonal support for your SO, but only when she needs it. Not when she tells you to but when she really needs it. If this is going on for weeks and you have been able to stay out of it you can sif her down and ask her what is bothering her. Support isnt something that you can force upon another person

AlphaAsFAQ · 2014-07-02T23:31:52+00:00

If you want to continue the relationship, be there for her and listen when she wants to listen. She's obviously going through a hard time in her life and will need the support of a rock.

If you don't want to continue the relationship, tell her it's not working out for you and that you think the relationship should end. Maybe throw in something about how she can spend more time with her sister now if she reacts poorly to the news.

Ask yourself, is the juice worth the squeeze?

captainbloodd · 2014-07-03T01:29:58+00:00

Typically a woman isn't going to push you away over stress. I'm thinking you either have gotten too clingy or she's interested in someone else. All the other stuff she's telling you sounds like bullshit to me.

Back off from her and don't push her to communicate. Also don't vomit your feelings all over her. Next time she contacts you, tell her you think you and her would be better off as friends. Then cut contact and find another woman (or 3)

Syn3rgetic · 2014-07-03T04:19:49+00:00

Why would you abandon her when shes going through such a difficult time? Because its inconvenient for you?

You may not feel like talking about what is going on with her and her family but she would really appreciate it if you at least acted as if you cared. You are her boyfriend. You are supposed to offer her emotional support when its necessary. Shes probably not talking to you about it because you're giving off the impression that you don't genuinely care, which judging by the tone of this post, seems correct.

If you want to break up with her I would advise you to wait a little longer until she starts acting like her normal self again. The relationship not being all about you is not a good reason to possibly push her over the edge.

Title	Being left outta the loop.
Author	Syn3rgetic
Upvotes	6
Comments	21
Date	July 2, 2014 10:42 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/29ovx7/being_left_outta_the_loop/
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