I've swallowed the pill and have shifted into self improvement mode.

I've only been a babyface and usually shave about twice a week (my beard grows slowly).

However, a couple years ago, I briefly grew a Van Dyke and got positive feedback. I'm currently regrowing it but I have no experience maintaining facial hair. Its part of the reason that I shaved it off last time. I need advise on online resources I can use to self educate. Do I need to buy a beard trimmer? If so, what should I look for?

My dad died and I don't have a man in my life that I feel comfortable asking about this. Any help is welcome.

Also, I've never been one to wear cologne. Most are overpowering to me. (I have an overly sensitive sense of smell). That said, I think it's pimp when a guy can pull off a subtle, manly scent. It takes finesse and even the ladies recognize it. Any advice on cologne that is subtle and manly? (And preferably not too expensive).

Optional pertinent info: I'm married and want to raise my SMV to help relationship stability and encourage my wife to greater bedroom enthusiasm.