Cold approaching without any indication is cringe worthy

Woujo · 2016-06-13T16:22:05+00:00

Let me clear that up cold appraching in a group is cringe worthy,

Not if you do it right. There is absolutely nothing "cringe worthy" of introducing yourself to people. In fact, if you were at a small party it would be rude of you not to. I agree with you that most guys suck at it and come off looking like creeps, but the inherent fact of approaching people is not "cringe-worthy" at all.

I see it every time in the bar some guys hitting on a group of chicks way out of their leaague

There are no leagues. Only losers think that.

i mean is it so hard to stand around and chill with your friends and then lock eyes with a girl that smiles at you and go chat her up

The main reason dudes never get laid is because they are fixated on fantastical ideas of how relationships should go - we'll lock eyes and it'll be magical. Fuck off.

Guys look like packs of hungry wolves and girls could sense that...desperation is not a good look.

Ok then don't look like that.

MattsE36 · 2016-06-14T05:43:42+00:00

My rule of thumb is people who declare social interactions as "cringe worthy" are usually the socially awkward ones. "way out of their league" this isn't high school there are no leagues, I think you have some growing up to do.

gtrman571 · 2016-06-13T17:02:09+00:00

You just take the hand of the girl you like and say to the other girls "I need to borrow your friend for a second..." Pull her away and well you know...

DaygameCoach · 2016-06-13T17:07:56+00:00

"cold approaching in a group is cringe worthy"

This is a self-limiting belief, so for you this is true. You need to fix it.

"..girls could sense that...desperation is not a good look."

That's another SLB. Approaching does not mean "desperation." Successful approaches come from confidence, abundance mentality, and being social. If the women have a good time, all is good. If you believe you come off as desperate, then you do.

Please don't respond to me with excuses or more self-limiting beliefs.

TheXXL · 2016-06-14T09:36:17+00:00

Let me clear that up cold appraching in a group is cringe worthy,

I guess it makes you feel ashamed when others do that. This is mostly due to your own beliefs that it is wrong, but let me tell you from experience: It works pretty well.

I see it every time in the bar some guys hitting on a group of chicks way out of their leaague looking like a creeps,

What makes them look like creeps, and what makes the girls "out of their league"? I am sure you cannot describe it.

i mean is it so hard to stand around and chill with your friends and then lock eyes with a girl that smiles at you and go chat her up.

So this is what you do, and therefore everybody who does not follow your frame is creepy? Look into yourself, you seem to have real deep problems with your confidence, or you are just jealous of the other guys having it easier to let go and have more success than you.

Guys look like packs of hungry wolves and girls could sense that...desperation is not a good look.

Agreed, desperation is not helping at all, but what makes them "desperate"? Also you seem to think that women are some magical creatures with magical powers. I guess you are good in pedestal thinking, hence the "league" talk, the fear of cold approach, the shaming of people who are not scared of it, and to top it off, the mentality that women need to pick you, which makes you the passive part since you are just waiting for a girl to acknowledge you, making you the "chosen one".

Like i say this implies that you are thinking women are worth much more than yourself.

Title	Cold approaching without any indication is cringe worthy
Author	NotaaCop
Upvotes	0
Comments	6
Date	June 13, 2016 3:43 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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