Hello Seddit,

I'm not really great at "gaming" women due to some very unfortunate circumstances in my life I was forced to not participate in the dating world until I had become a legal adult. I'm 24 now and am trying learn all of this.

Right now I'm focusing on eye contact and mindfulness to help me get out of my head and into the woman's world.

I've started practicing meditation and go to a Zen center in my city. As I walk into the room I made sure to make all of my movements slower and to do my best to exude confidence, I catch the eye of a girl I've never seen in the session before. She's pretty, golden hair, and looks to be in her older 30's. I love blondes and talking to more mature women so this is not something I want to let pass by.

After we finish our zazen we have some tea. I took a seat next to her while she was speaking to another girl. She notices that I'm paying attention to her story so she turns around and I introduce myself with a strong handshake and eye contact. To my surprise she's really receptive and we have a short conversation before our student-instructor (an old man who will talk your ear off if you let him) takes over and explains zen buddhism to everyone new.

While the instructor is droning I shift my posture so that my hand was supporting my head while I leaned a bit on the table, out of my peripherals I notice that she seems to be mirroring my posture, of course I think to myself "the way I'm sitting isn't exclusive to just me, she's probably just trying to get comfortable. I end up switching posture so that both my arms were on the table and whatd'ya know, a few minutes later she switches her posture to mine.

I'm thinking to myself "holy shit, is she interested? Or am I just reading into it too much?". Eventually she gets up to leave because our instructor doesn't know when to stop talking and everyone is getting bored. I thought I lost my chance because of this, so I get up and go to wash my tea cup.

Funny enough, even though we're damn near complete strangers and haven't really talked much at all, she takes the time to say give me a quick goodbye as I washed my cup. I use this moment to strike up conversation and everything is going well, eventually we get to her car and I ask if she's gonna come back sometime, she tells me that she doesn't know since her life can get busy at times. I tell her that I hope to see her again and take my leave.

Now I know you're thinking why I didn't ask for her number? Honestly, I'm not doing so hot financially right now and probably won't be able to afford a new phone for a while, I don't think women would consider going out with a man who can't even get a cell phone right now.

I think she was into me, but I'm so bad with women that I don't trust my judgement on the matter.

Do you guys think I should've just said fuck it anyways and asked for her number? I have a house phone and that's about it so I could've exchanged that if it came to it.

Idk Seddit, teach me your ways.