First of all, I’m after the SNL. I went out to my city’s Pride celebration yesterday to pursue this goal. I made out with 4 woman, danced dirty with 6, and got 5 numbers. I consider that pretty successful if I weren’t after the SNL. The night started at an outdoor block party, then to a quieter bar, then to a gay club.

Girl 1 HB6: It was early in the evening, like 8, and I noticed her dancing near me. After a couple of eye contacts I go up to here and compliment her on her eyes. The compliment was delivered super genuinely but wasn’t important. I sometimes compliment women on their eyes because my eyes are stunning and it brings the attention back to me. Me: “You have the prettiest eyes” Her: “Oh no you’re eyes are amazing, they’re so blue” Me: “Thanks, but they don’t have a that body to go with” Yeah, not super bright but she starts grinding me hard right then. We dance, hands everywhere, makeout on the dance floor. Then her friends pull her away. She asks for my number and I give it, but I don’t see her for the rest of the night.

There was some time between Girl 1 and Girl 2, I tried dancing with a few girls with no or little IOI, so I don’t push it and just dance for myself. Three woman HB7, HB9, and HB9 start dancing right next to me. I have good energy so I just booty bump into the HB7 and start dancing. They love it and I move to one of the HB9s. The party vibe changed because of what was happening on stage and the dancing simmered down for more of a show performance.

Girl 2 HB7 (a little bit long): Some time passes and I find a group of 6 girls and 3 guys who look like they could use another friend (me). I move in with good dancing energy and an HB7.5 started ass grabbing me and dancing. The party is ending, the music has stopped. No one is quite ready to go home so my new friends and I go to a nearby bar. HB7.5 is very drunk and leans over to me and says “I have a boyfriend, I don’t think he would mind though, you’re so cute”. I don’t capitalize on this because her friends are watching and protecting her because she’s so drunk (It was her 21st). She goes home shortly thereafter anyways because she started vomiting. I shift attention to HB8, a sensible looking engineering student from Michigan. She’s a more reserved and quiet than the rest of the group. But she leaves with another girl who take off at about this point. So, I shift to HB7 (of which this paragraph is about). We get into a great conversation, but it’s just a great conversation. 10 minutes later, it’s late, and she has to work in the morning and she bounces after giving me her number. So I bounce.

HB7: I go to a local gay club because that place is always fun and on a Pride night it will be overflowing. I get mistaken for gay frequently so it’s a good conversation starter. Also, women feel like they can just feel me up because they think I’m gay. It works for me. I find her alone at the bar and approach to see if she wants to dance. She does, so we go out. It gets pretty raunchy quickly as predicted. She wants to know if I’m gay, as predicted. Of course “Oh yeah, I’m so gay” as I slop drop down her front and rub my face up her chest. We kiss a few times and I’m sticking to the “I’m gay story”. The music drops and she asks me how I “got so thirsty”, I just tell her I’m a man and am really into her, more than my boyfriends. She says she just got divorced from her WIFE and is horny as fuck. I suggest we leave the dance floor to go “makeout” and we do. We head to a nearby park, lay down, makeout, then she drops it on me that that’s all wants. I’m a little frustrated at this revelation. Then she goes on to tell me she’s been sampling the dick a lot since the divorce (but not going sample mine!). She just wanted to be close and makeout) I was annoyed she was telling me this. At this point we’re walking back to the club. When we get inside she reaches for my hand, I playfully bat it away, slap her on the ass as I walk by, and fade into the crowd. Later I see her making out with other guys. She doesn’t interact with me again.

Some time passes.

HB6.5: She dancing with friends. I work myself into their group and start going in for the HB7.5. I’m pretty bold at this point in the night and she quickly get handsy. We dance hard and dirty for a long time. It was one of the most pleasurable and memorable dancing experiences I’ve had to date. She and her friends vaporize, suddenly and confusingly after about 20 minutes. Then I run into them outside, smoking. She offers me a smoke, I take it (I should not have), fake smoke and pass it back. I don’t smoke and I had to own up to that after that little interaction. We chat for about 10 minutes and she’s complimenting my style, my “presence” and confidence… great IOI. But conversation shifts to her friend who is there and they chat it up. I’m being ignored at this point and I try to interject to get her number, but HB6.5 is too into her friend. I tell them I’m headed back into dance, “k bye”. I see her on the dance floor about 20 minutes later but she has no interest in dancing, total lockout. I’m frustrated at this but keep dancing.

HB8: I end the night with a sexy latina girl. She seemed into me at first, but she kept leaving and telling me “I’ll be back”. IOI? She does come back. She’s way too classy for me though and I get too intimidated by her dancing style. She was dancing salsa and I have no idea how. That fizzles and I go home.

All these woman, except for perhaps the last woman I danced with, had full on IOIs. Then, each one in a moment, dropped off my radar. If I were playing a multiday game, I would probably be met with success. But I’m trying to get a SNL. Did I run into a spell of back luck? Or am I fundamentally playing the game wrong?

It seems that once I have a girl off the dance floor, they invariably loose interest in me. I’m a great conversationalist, but I lack directed conversation game. I get too factual and into the topic at hand.

This is not my only experience trying to achieve the SNL, but this was evening with seemingly particularly good odds, then ended in fapping.

What am I doing wrong?