I panicked, what do I do to chill the f*ck out?

CloneStamp · 2016-07-30T14:12:47+00:00

My experience in picking up chicks is pretty low. But my experience in social situations is decent.

It's just a mindset. Go out with the intentions of enjoying yourself and being genuinely curious about other people. Don't set yourself goals of numbers, or kisses, or you know - the deed. Just go out for YOU. You'll probably make a fool of yourself or do something stupid, but it's funny and you'll learn.

You'll get there, we're all on a path and if you keep walking you'll slowly but surely get further along it. Sometimes it's rocky and it's steep, other times it's a hoot.

One thing, don't just talk to girls. Just talk to anyone, if you talk to a girl and feel like it's going somewhere then great! Just don't pressure yourself too much too soon. Baby steps buddy. I hope this helps in some way.

shoganaiyo · 2016-07-30T18:35:45+00:00

Congratulations, you just had a perfectly normal first ever field experience. You went out, you made mistakes and gained some valuable first hand experience. No amount of sitting on your computer, reading PUA articles and discussing theory will ever substitute to what you just gained.

A number of suggestions though:

Whether you were just using a turn of phrase or not, you are unlikely you'll be picking up chicks right off the bat and expecting that at this stage will fuck up your game. It's important to keep in mind that your skills are underdeveloped right now. You should be focusing on the basics: opening, sustaining conversation and building rapport.
If you feel the need to put up a shield, then you're not in the right head/emotional space and you should not be attempting pick up. Putting up a shield means whatever underneath is sensitive and needs protecting, and it creates a distance between you and others and don't think they don't notice. If you approach women in that state, it will come across as needy or creepy. You need to be ok with who you are or you're basically going out and asking for others to validate you. It's just not attractive.
You need to face a lot more rejection before it'll lose its sting. It's something we all go through, you have to be a bit of a masochist and keep going back for more.

Jordanreddits · 2016-07-30T17:26:34+00:00

You need to believe in yourself. Throwing running shoes on with a suit isn't going to make you run any faster, putting running shoes on coupled with workout gear doesn't mean you are fit either. You have to run to be a runner. You can "tell" yourself that you "did" this, "learned" that but your limiting beliefs will just cock block you more than any yoked out schmuck in the bar. Dig deep and truly believe! I don't know you but the fact you are reaching out for help is confidence in itself. Why not take this confidence and transfer it to your dating life? Quit making up fucking excuses and do it. Fucking man up if your talking to a girl and a guy walks up... Tell him to fuck off. That is your space, that is your set, that is your girl. Do you want to be the wolf or the sheep? If you let guys push you around, the women will fallow. Stand your ground, create a dominating presence, be the guy at the bar that everyone wants to talk to because you're having so much fun in your world and don't give a flying fuck about anyone else's world

TL;DR : Stop your limiting beliefs. Take control of your world. Be the man at the bar that everyone wants to be around (I.e. Laugh, have fun, converse with anyone and anything).

2016-07-30T08:04:37+00:00

Meditatioooooon!

Title	I panicked, what do I do to chill the f*ck out?
Author	BubbleShip
Upvotes	2
Comments	4
Date	July 30, 2016 7:21 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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