A little background I discovered this subreddit 2 months ago, been reading it regularly ever since. I also broke up with my ex a few weeks prior to that. After going on 7 first dates thanks to Tinder, with no second dates, I knew I needed to make some changes.

Setting the scene I had another date with a Tinder chick and we met up at a bar about 10 minutes from my apartment. I get there first and I'm just relaxing scoping out the bar. The place is pretty dead, at least compared to the bars I frequent. About 8 minutes later she shows up and we hug. I ask her what she wants to drink and she says she will take what I'm having. I order her a drink and tell her let's go outside.

We are outside and the conversation is good. I initiate some light kino by positioning my right leg close to her leg so they are touching. Part of my personality is that I can be an asshole sometimes so I tease her about drinking her beer faster than mine. I joke with her some more and touch her left shoulder a few times in between just to let her know I'm kidding. We finish our beers and head back inside to order another round.

This next part is interesting. I recognize a guy at the bar, he is friends with one of my previous Tinder dates and I had oneitis for her. I give him the head nod and order the beers and close my tab. I did not see oneitis girl and just proceed to chat up and flirt with my date some more. We are standing up talking and I notice her body language is more relaxed and open now. Earlier that night she told me a crazy party story and I started to tell her one of mine. After I finish the story I sip my drink look around and spot oneitis. Her friends are sitting by the bar literally right beside me, she is the fourth one down. I did not say hi to the group since there backs were turned to me. I made eye contact with oneitis chunked up the deuces smiled and went back to my date.

That was the end of that so my date and I are finishing up our beers and I tell her let's go to another spot this place is wack. She is down and I extend me hand and she takes it then we walk out holding hands. I did some research prior to this and there is another bar 8 minutes walking distance. However, I did not realize it was across a highway lol. We walk around and notice we can't get there luckily there is another bar on the corner. We go inside and she buys the beers. We start talking and she tells me she is a fan of a baseball team that I hate. I stand up, tell her it was nice meeting you, give her a hug, and then pretend l like I was going to walk away.

From there we continue to talk and it is getting late so after we kill our beers we start to head back. As we are heading back I stop her and make a comment about her shirt. I was examining the logo on it and moved her closer to a street light so I could get a better look. I'm touching her sides and looking at her shirt and then I shift to her face. I go in for the kiss and we make out for about 30 seconds. I disengage and we laugh about the public making out, then I take her hand then we keep walking.

We get to her car make out for another minute or so then call it a night. I walk back to my car with a huge grin on my face then drive back home. I wanted her to come over but she was tired and had to work in the morning. I've learned to not get my hopes regarding Tinder chicks, but will try to schedule a second date and close then.

Special thanks to all you wonderful people on this subreddit. A few months ago I would have never dreamed of even kissing a girl on the first date. I was afraid to escalate, touch a girl, or even make a move. Still have a lot of work left to do but looking forward to growing with the rest of you!