Fairly quiet night adn only a few approaches - and not much to write home about, but another field report.
Positives are that there were no super awkward rejections (''who are you and why are you talking to me - go away!'' type things)
Other positive is just that I didn't feel much approach anxiety. Had a few nights recently where I failed to approach which always feels worse than even a fairly harsh rejection once I wake up in the morning!
Anyway - First approach was with 2 girls standing by a table at a bar. They both seemed to be majorly into their phones and were giggling.
I just walked over and said ''What are you two up too?! I feel like I'm missing out!''.
They were friendly off the bat (a welcome surprise)
''we're snapchatting!'' - then they showed me some pics of themselves that they'd just taken with the app that gives you dog ears and stuff.
I said ''Do me! group photo!'' then they put their arms around me and took a photo of the 3 of us.
I don't remember exactly how the conversation went, but they asked me what phone I have and we talked phones and apps for a minute or two.
I asked them where they were going that night.
It started to slightly rain (we were outside) and once of them said ''I'm getting wet'' and then they both giggled I said ''You two are naughty. You've got dirty minds!'' They both laughed.
I can't remember what I said next, but I remember her replying to whatever I said with ''I've got a boyfriend, and so has she!''
I ejected soon after that
There was this really pretty girl standing quite near me. Just my type. Gorgeous eyes, and looked really young.
She has a fur coat on.
''Hey! - I like your coat. But if it's real fur, we can't be friends'' (I was sure to smile lots when I said this, as sometimes in my experience, girls can think you're being serious if they don't know you)
She wasn't rude or anything, but didn't look that interested.
She said ''I don't even know if it's real or not''
I asked her where she was going that night and who she was with, but her answers were very short, and I didn't feel as though she gave me anything to 'work with'.
Soon after she just moved away from me about 6 foot so I decided to leave her alone.
There were these 2 girls standing near me and it started to rain a little bit, and I was under the protection of like a giant umbrella thing that was in the beer garden, and they were maybe too shy to get under it as it was busy and they were getting a bit wet.
I said ''Come here, you two! I'll let you under, but you gotta be cool!''
They laughed and said thanks and got under it with me.
I noticed one of them had a plane looking drink, and I said ''what's that?!''
She said ''just water - i'm driving tonight''.
I teased her and said ''You said you were cool! liar. Out you get! (and lightly pushed her as it to get her out of the protection and back out into the rain)
She laughed and kind of hit me.
I tried to guess what she done for a job, and we kind of vibed for a while, but after about 5 minutes they both moved away.
I wasn't actually attracted to either of them so no big deal. Was more for practice.
edit: Just remembered one last mini approach as I was abuot to go get a cab home.
there was this pretty girl walking slowly in front of me. I walked past her and then looked back and smile and said ''Hey! what's up!''
She smiled and said her feet hurt.
I said ''want a piggy back!!?''
she surprised me and said yes, lol. So I said, "go on then, jump on!2
She got on my back and I walked her a minute down the road to the cab rank, lol.
Can't remember what we spoke about. When I put her down, I tried to talk to her, but she managed to get a cab almost straight away and I didn't see her again.
I'm maybe getting less harsh rejections recently, but even after a few hundred approaches now, I'm still not ever really getting anywhere.
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I feel as though I am maybe just not asking the right questions or something? I tend to obviously ask who they are with and where they are going (no point in asking where they are from as I live in a small town and pretty much everyone is from here is born and raised here). Then, if they haven't already walked away, i'll maybe make some assummptions/statements on what they do for a work.
What other sorts of things should i ask/talk about early on?
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