Sets: 7

Number-close: 2 of 2

Instant-date: 0 of 0 attempts

 

Today’s focus:

  • Man to woman
  • Presence / ease

 

Going out was not tempting at all, it’s snowstorm, but I went out to meet my wings anyway, it’s awesome being committed with wings - we’re doing a 30 day challenge.

 

  • First set was more for fun and to put me more in state, I just asked a woman to marry me for 10 seconds, she just rolled her eyes and walked away
  • 2th set a tall Lithuanian girl, I pushed the set further with just asking about her job and stuff
  • I then failed the time challenge and did 10 pushups + 3 clapping ones, noticed smiling people passing me by, this puts me in a good mood, then noticed a whole family sitting in a window giving me a thumbs up, haha!
  • “Excuse me. Can I tell you something random?” - “Eh no no” - “Eh, yes yes, I think you look nice.” - Lightly holding her back on her arm whilst walking away..
    • Good: Didn’t just give up and let her walk without telling her the compliment
    • Improve: Walk-with then saying what’s up, be yourself, be friendly, fun, have a chat
  • Opened a standing woman outside a shopping store, just compliment and “have a nice day” - “Oh, thank you!"
    • Improve: Stay in there, persist thru the initial awkwardness - "disarm the awkward"
  • Cute brunette in the train station mall
    • Good:
      • Challenged: “Tell me something interesting about you."
      • Went for the close AND persisted thru initial resistance from her, saying she was kinda seeing this guy
    • Improve:
      • Try some unstifflng exc with warmups - to be more free-flowing and expressive
      • I was referencing a swedish movie with her name, and saying I liked those birds with the tits, I then held back from making those screams the birds make
        • Woud you if this was someone you already knew? Yes. Then do it with the girls.
      • Tell wing to not interfere in set
      • I noticed when my wing made a joke about my “whiskers” she vibed with and said she wasn’t sure how old I was - I was probably not present enough to vibe with, but I tried: “Yeah, my awesome beard..” (I have a subtle stubble..)
        • Couldve perhaps joked more, and the girl was maybe curious to how old I was, to me it doesn’t matter, she was 18, but I could probably had made a joke about age to make her more comfortable
      • I noticed she was more comfortable and free just with my wing saying those short comments, which tells me I need to be more present and aware of how the girl is feeling, and get better at comfort, and not be so anxious and taking “picking her up” so goddamn serious, it’s supposed to be fun and flirty.
      • Chat more after the number-close; Could’ve joked more about the movie reference thing, after the close I asked her the name-spelling then she referenced back “like the movie.” - I shouldve maybe asked what movies she was into after the close
      • Send a text shortly after with my name, I’m home now hours after and I forgot to
  • Fucking sexy ass woman with leather pants
    • Good:
      • Didn’t hesitate, went for it, held the “employee-door" open after her - ballsy!
      • Joked about being okay with being the 2th bf
      • Opened a smoking one, instead of being intimidated and thinking “too hot"
    • Improve: Don’t sound butthurt when she mentions bf

 

We then scare the shit out of our wing in the mall, this is the fun vibe I like and appreciate going with them

 

  • Cute blondie in furry hoodie - I opened her, kinda scared her, then my wing tried open too and I just said fuck off and pushed him away, haha.
    • Good:
      • She: “Just passing time.” - “then we can do it together then”, then I held around her “jokingly” - I took it back after a moment, but noticed she didn’t have much resistance to it
      • Didn’t think about it, but just walk-with, and she didn’t even ask why until later - I said me and my friends were out walking, and she didn’t even notice them - (she must have thought there were another guy approaching her at the same time, and that I just pushed this “stranger” off.. She must have gotten a bit hot for that :p) - This gave us wings an idea to try out tho..
      • “So.. Tell me. Do you have a boyfriend?” - whilst taking my arm around her again, then keeping it here and holding her more tightly into my body - my wings said we looked like a couple walking
      • She was just on a date via Happn, and I said this was better, “real life”. It craves more balls and man’ing up I said - she said she’s kinda touch herself just “being with me” and said that I could have a knife or something. I laughed and said "I won’t stab you… Yet, anyway ;)"
        • That could’ve been a hefty good sexual joke, just done right with tonality and a smirk and eye contact, but it was just a "normal" joke
      • Ballsy joke: “you can call me sexy boy.” - I tried being sneaky, “Do you spell your name the usual way?” - then they’ll usually tell you again their name (cause i forgot), I just said honestly I forgot it, hugged her, then she didnt remember mine either and I teased her on it.
      • Persisted thru initial resistance to the number-close
    • Improve:
      • I should’ve kept talking, getting more comfort, after I got her number
      • Disarm the random and awkwardness at the start by stating it
      • Should’ve challenged her back, she said (instead of me, haha! good sign tho!) “How old do you think I am?"
      • Mindset: Assume attraction - I notice I’m getting nervous when the girl finally IS hooked and interested, I kinda don’t know what to do or say next - Just relax and be yourself, flirt with her
      • Be more non-reactive, don’t laugh your ass off, it mostly comes from trying to get/impress her.
      • My frame: it’s too loose and wavy like a leaf in the wind.
        • Saying and asking things I find interesting
      • Be more yourself, fun, free, don’t care, cling to your own validation, not her's
      • Instant-date potential??

 

SUMMARY

GOOD SHIT I DID:

  • Kept my focus on being present to the moment, and being man to woman with the girls
    • I noticed better reactions from the girls, like they got more hooked/hot when talking to me, probably by focusing on being ‘man to woman’ (“showing them my dick”, letting them know I want them) - It helps thinking about fucking the girl, how hot it would be and shit..
  • Didn’t stress about future projection, I was very in the moment with the guys, not bothering about what could happen in set

THINGS I CAN IMPROVE:

  • Remembering I should try and take the girl on an instant-date - Don’t play for the number, play to get with the girl
  • Don’t fall in observer mode, keep momentum up
  • Be more free flowing
  • Don’t want/need validation from the girl
  • Be more yourself