Any Asians here have success with white girls?

WxOnWxOff · 2016-11-08T07:06:52+00:00

Chinese guy here! I've actually only ever had white girlfriends weirdly enough. One of the biggest advantages was being able to show them that I didn't just fall into your standard Asian stereotype-model even though I do! For example, I've participated in numerous martial arts, have played piano since I was a kid, and am getting my Master's in Electrical Engineering. But those are only small parts of my whole self.

When I finally broke out of my quiet shell in high school, I really let my humour, charisma, and goofy behaviours out. And I'd like to think that those are the characteristics that really appealed to my previous girlfriends. My ability to express myself became the absolute game-changer. That, and still having goals, always trying something new, and having a social life.

At the end of the day, attracting women usually simply boils down to a few key concepts:

Confidence/ability to express yourself
Style/appearance
Leading an interesting life

How you go about each of those will be uniquely your own. That's the hardest part. No matter how much you read or how much anyone can ever tell you, it will ultimately be up to you to figure out exactly what your standards, guidelines, and ideals are. You're going to make mistakes and feel embarrassed, but that's part of the process :) Be patient with yourself, and just focus on the next steps you can take.

Not attracting the women you're seeking? Maybe it's the way you're conveying yourself. Can you hold eye contact and carry conversations with others? How much emotion do you bring into your conversations? How do others usually act towards you? Maybe it's your appearance. How often do you exercise/work out? Weights are not a question. How's your diet? Sleep schedule alright? Or maybe it's your lifestyle. Are you happy? What would you like to change? What are the hobbies that make you completely lose track of time? Is there something you've been telling yourself you should do but haven't yet?

If you want more tips, I wrote a list of things that got me to where I am today in a post I actually submitted to seddit a month ago: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/55fix5/fr_my_first_cold_approach/

This turned out to be much longer than anticipated! So feel free to send me questions if you have any, and good luck! :)

Still_Interested · 2016-11-08T04:59:11+00:00

Hey. Filipino guy here. Last white girl I dated, I invited her to try some pancit with me since our conversation somehow went to food. One thing led to another and we dated for 2 years. So I guess try introducing them to Korean food?

Edit: Better yet cook some for her yourself, if you can.

whisperfactory · 2016-11-08T07:58:11+00:00

White girl here that loves Asian boys (well hot Asian boys). Trust me there's a good appreciation out there for you. I know a lot of Kpop obsessed white girls (not me). I only realized my love for Asian guys when I saw that my instagram feed was full of Asian male actors/musicians, such an "aha" moment.

master_wanderer23 · 2016-11-08T05:25:37+00:00

Make it your strength. White girls are surrounded by the same ass white dudes. Stand out.

alchemy_index · 2016-11-08T22:35:11+00:00

I'm Japanese and have only been with/dated white girls. I grew up in a very white area so maybe it helps that I look Japanese but my "culture" is not too unfamiliar for some white girls. Usually I'm the first Asian guy they've dated/hooked up with, and (interestingly, to me), none of them have been the anime/kpop/etc. obsessed type girls that one might expect.

Sure, some women won't be attracted to an Asian guy, but I feel like if that's the case, I wouldn't want to be with someone like that anyway.

be interesting
be confident
be fun

VeinerSchnitzel · 2016-11-08T06:08:02+00:00

Dating a white girl now, as well as a few in the past. Definitely use your uniqueness as an advantage. She loves the fact that I'm not like the fratty guys she's used to.

Idk what your current wardrobe looks like, but urban and more techwear fits work better for me. I'll wear the polo and loafers every now and then though.

This next suggestion might sound total bullshit, but I would watch a few movies with Asian male antagonists. I used those portrayals to make my own demeanor more slick and laid back, but never losing an ounce of confidence.

Some white girls only like white guys. And tbh those were never the ones I was interested in. With practice it's easy to pick out the more culturally-liberated members of the female Caucasian population.

Chk232 · 2016-11-08T17:59:42+00:00

Indian decent and lived in Pennsylvania, so no

Title	Any Asians here have success with white girls?
Author	How2be
Upvotes	15
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Date	November 8, 2016 3:50 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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