(Hey guys. I've actually posted this field report before but I forgot to include a lot of very crucial details about the date. Here's the updated, more accurate version):

(START) We meet at the mall outside 711. We hug, she smiles and seems warm. We start walking. I hold her by the wrist and move her to the other side, saying ‘I prefer walking on the left side’. I break the ice by saying ‘Did you come in a motorcycle’ since she’s wearing a badass leather jacket. While we’re on the escalator I make good eye contact and have a cheeky smile, she is reciprocating strong eye contact while smiling and looking at my mouth. Vibe is pretty good at this point.

Afterwards we go to the dessert place, sitting opposite each other (I wanted to sit side by side but the situation just so happened that we had to sit opposite each other, it would’ve been uncalibrated to ask her to suddenly sit next to me). We talk about basic stuff like culture in HK, I start making cold reads about her such as how she seems stoic and subtle, because I get the impression she’s super friendly but at the same time, that there are a lot of thoughts she does not express verbally and just keeps to herself. And how she seems like she represses her true emotions. Vibe is chill at this point, nothing major, just kind of getting to know each other more. No kino, although I think I touched her hand at one point, subtly. I pay for the bill, saying ‘I’ll pay this time, you pay next time’, and she says ‘Are you sure? Ok how about we go for coffee now and I’ll pay for that?’ I say sure.

As we’re on the escalator I touch her shoulders/neck region, to establish kino while joking about how that’s the first time I’ve heard her laugh (she laughed at one of my jokes), since she’s quite ‘emotionally repressive’ as I mentioned earlier.

We go to Pacific Coffee and while waiting for our order I place my hand on her lower back and gesture for her to sit down and save our seat. She agrees. As I sit down and start talking to her I touch her thigh subtly and momentarily. She seems ok with that. We sit down and talk about more sexual topics like hooking up, sex, drugs. She talks about how the culture here seems quite conservative, no partying etc, and inquires about whether university students in HK go partying. We talk about relationships. She says she’s been single for quite a while now. As we talk about the topic of intimate relationships, she says she’s more into relationships rather than hookups but admits that she’s done one night stands before and that if she’s in the mood for having fun, she would have fun. I say to her I can't imagine her being in a relationship (I say this because she seems very independent) and ask what what she’s like as a girlfriend, she says she’s the romantic type.

I cold read her telling her that she seems very confident. She says she’s significantly more confident now because she lost a lot of weight since 2014, and showed me a progress picture. I asked if guys get intimidated by her, since she seems confident and assertive. She says yes. I ask her if she gets hit on a lot, she says yes, I ask her how she feels about that, she says it’s flattering but it can be annoying when guys don’t get the hint. I ask her if she regards herself as ‘hard to get’ and she says ‘yes i’m really hard to get haha’. I neg her about it saying ‘oooooh someone’s super hard to get eh…’ which she kind of just shakes off. She asks me how man long-term relationships I've had before, I say 2. I tell her to come go for a walk with me, she says sure.

As we walk to the park I tell her my hands are cold and touch her hands to show her (I did this for the purpose of kino escalating, but it comes off as congruent/calibrated, so it’s ok). There is significant finger contact (it’s not just some casual hand touching). She seems ok with it. I tell her her hands seem warm.

We start walking outside. We walk for a while in the park, at which point she says ‘Oh btw I have be home before 11’. I take this as a cue to speed up the escalation. So I sit her down on a bench next to me.

She starts texting this friend of her’s (because she has some luggage shit to deal with, something like her friend needs a luggage for tomorrow and has to meet her before they sleep, this is a legit excuse I can tell). I try to ‘control the frame’ by saying ‘oh is this what you normally do when you’re out with people’ in a joking sort of way, but it comes off like I’m accusing her and hence, comes off as awkward and uncalibrated (I really should think of a way to get girls to put down their phone in a dominant, non-awkward way), and in response she’s like ‘yea but this is something I have to urgently sort out first’. We start talking back again about her getting hit on by guys. She goes on about how she hates it when guys hit on her but don’t get the signal to back off. She seems quite passionate/angst when she says this, as if she’s genuinely irritated by guys who don’t get the signal to back off. She then casually says she doesn’t fall in love easily, and when she does she really likes them (so either she doesn’t like them or really really likes them). I’m not sure what she’s doing here but it seems like she might be saying this to try to play hard to get.

I escalate by telling her her hair smells good in a sexual tone of voice, and ask her ‘do you deliberately shampoo your hair to seduce guys’, to which she seems a bit taken aback and says ‘um no, I don’t actively try to seduce guys.’ At this point, her body is angled towards me, suggesting she’s interested. I test the waters by putting her hand on me knee. She pulls her hand away, I take this as her attempt of playing hard to get. I act unfazed and make some small talk. At some point, I high five her (I forgot the context) and let my hand linger a bit - she seems to squeeze back slightly. IOI?. I hold a sexual gaze and start talking with a progressively more sexual voice, but she doesn’t meet my gaze and avoids eye contact, suggesting resistance. So I cool off and afterwards use my massage routine. I asked her ‘What do you think is a seductive but socially acceptable act?” She says ‘idk’, I say ‘massaging’. She says she thinks massages should not be done in public and instead in a private place. I ask her if she’s good at massaging, she says she doesn’t think so. I say ‘I’ll be the judge of that’, and tell her to massage me which she does. I think this is an IOI, as she said that she views massaging as an act that should be done in a private place, not public. As she’s massaging me she asks ‘is this good?’, then eventually I say ‘let me show you how it’s done’, and proceed to massage her. I tell her to come closer which she does, and brush her hair away to reveal her neck. IOI. I massage her - she laughs and says it tickles, and I start tickling her waist. She says it tickles so much.

I then say ‘then let’s do this instead’, and pull her closer, my left arm around her. I say ‘you have permission to rest your head on my shoulder’, which she does, and I rest my head on her’s. IOI?. Then I say to her ‘I think there’s a lot more about you that you’re not expressing, you’re so hard to figure out. It’s like you’re wounded’. After about 10 seconds she pulls away, and says ‘I’m not very comfortable with this, this is too much’, to which I act unphased and say ‘that’s fine’, and take a step back. Her body language at this point is more closed - arms crossed and sitting at a right angle to me. I decide it’s time to take a big step back and disengage physicality. I try to persist but we engage in a slightly heated talk about ‘chasing dick’, she keeps insisting to me that ‘her life doesn’t revolve around chasing dick, and she seems a bit pissed that I am calling her judgmental about people who do’. However, I act unfazed. As we talk a bit more, her body slowly angles towards me again, signalling interest?. At this point I think to myself ‘Yes, her body language is positive again, she must have been impressed by my ability to handle her resistance’ and I plan on re-escalating, but then she says ‘oh I’ve gotta go, my friend has luggage’ or whatever (legit excuse), I try persisting by saying ‘we’ll go in 15 mins’, she says no she really has to go and physically gets up. I say yeah ok, I need to go too. As we walk back, I say ‘I like the silence’ because it’s nighttime and super quiet, and just have some basic banter. Then I say to her ‘I had a moderately enjoyable time with you’. She says haha ‘that’s very honest’, and I say to her ‘we might never see each other again’ to try to bait her to say ‘oh no we can meet up again if you want’ but she just says ‘Yeah, it was fun, it’s always really nice to meet new people. Also says something like ‘in case I don’t see you again, good luck on everything with medicine!’ (END)

My questions are: 1. WHEN did she start losing interest, and WHY? 2. What was the meaning behind her saying 'I have to be back by 11'? Was it a cue to speed up the escalation? 3. Is this set salvageable and if so, how would you proceed?

THANKS GUYS!