Hey guys, I really need help with analyzing my own field report. Basically I went on a date with a girl who was clearly interested, but I failed to K-close during the date. Hopefully you guys can also learn from my mistakes by reading my field report. Here it is:

(START) We meet at the 711. We hug, she smiles and seems warm. We start walking. I hold her by the wrist and move her to the other side, saying ‘I prefer walking on the left side’. I break the ice by saying ‘Did you come in a motorcycle’. While we’re on the escalator I make good eye contact and have a cheeky smile, she looks at my mouth. Vibe is pretty good at this point. Then we go to the toilet.

Afterwards we go to the dessert place, sitting opposite each other. We talk about basic stuff like culture in HK, I start making cold reads about her such as how she seems stoic and subtle. And how she seems like she represses her true emotions. A lot of ‘cheeky smiling’ going on. No kino, although I think I touched her hand at one point. I pay for the bill, saying ‘I’ll pay this time, you pay next time’, and she says ‘Are you sure? Ok how about we go for coffee now and I’ll pay for that?’ I say sure.

As we’re on the escalator I touch her shoulders/neck region.

We go to Pacific Coffee and while waiting for our order I place my hand on her lower back and gesture for her to sit down and save our seat. She agrees. As I start talking to her I touch her thigh subtly. We sit down and talk about more sexual topics like hooking up, sex, drugs. She talks about how the culture here seems quite conservative, no partying etc. I tell her to come go for a walk with me, she says sure.

We start walking outside. We walk for a while in the park, at which point she says ‘Oh btw I have be home before 11’. I take this as a cue to speed up the escalation. So I sit her down on a bench next to me.

I test the waters by putting her hand on me knee. She pulls away, I take this as her attempt of playing hard to get. Also, her body is angled towards me, suggesting she’s interested. At some point, I tell her my hands are cold, and grasp her hands, she seems to squeeze back. IOI. I hold a sexual gaze, but she doesn’t meet my gaze and avoids eye contact, suggesting resistance. So I cool off and afterwards use my massage routine. I asked her ‘What do you think is a seductive but socially acceptable act?” She says ‘idk’, I say ‘massaging’. She says she thinks massages should not be done in public and instead in a private place. I ask her if she’s good at massaging, she says she doesn’t think so. I say ‘I’ll be the judge of that’, and tell her to massage me which she does. I think this is an IOI, as she said that she views massaging as an act that should be done in a private place, not public. As she’s massaging me she asks ‘is this good?’, then eventually I say ‘let me show you’, and proceed to massage her. I tell her to come closer which she does, and brush her hair away to reveal her neck. IOI. She laughs and says it tickles, and I start tickling her waist.

I then say ‘then let’s do this instead’, and pull her closer. I say ‘you have permission to rest your head on my shoulder’, which she does. IOI. Then I say to her ‘I think there’s a lot more about you that you’re not expressing, you’re so hard to figure out. It’s like you’re wounded. After about 10 seconds she pulls away, and says ‘I’m not very comfortable with this’, to which I act unphased and say ‘that’s fine’, and take a step back. Her body language at this point is more closed - arms crossed and sitting at a right angle to me. I try to persist but we engage in a slightly heated talk about ‘chasing dick’, she keeps insisting to me that ‘her life doesn’t revolve around chasing dick, and she seems a bit pissed that I am calling her judgmental about people who do’. Her body slowly moves towards me, signalling interest. At this point she eventually says ‘oh I’ve gotta go, my friend has luggage’ or whatever (legit excuse), I try persisting by saying ‘we’ll go in 15 mins’, she says no she really has to go and gets up. I say yeah ok, I need to go too. As we walk back, I say ‘I like the silence’, and just have some basic banter. Then I say to her ‘I had a moderately enjoyable time with you’. She says haha ‘that’s very honest’, and I say to her ‘we may never see each other again’ and she says ‘Yeah, it’s really nice to meet new people, if we do see each other again…. (can’t remember). (END)

Could anyone please help me break down what I did wrong in the date? She seemed interested but why couldn't I K-close? I feel like it has something to do with the escalation but not sure. Really need your guys' help.