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Question about the approach

Hank2121 · 2016-12-23T23:00:13+00:00

I really have difficulty to tell my intention ,I'm talking as if I wasn't interested ,and I don't know how to fix that ,maybe am I too...

Hank2121

December 23, 2016

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Title	Question about the approach
Author	Hank2121
Upvotes	4
Comments	7
Date	December 23, 2016 11:00 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/5jzyfg/question_about_the_approach/
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[–]_TurnuptheSun_ 9 years ago [recovered] (6 children) | Copy Link

It sounds like you're not escalating in the interaction. Here's some advice I gave another dude that will help:

Escalation happens in lots of little steps that build up to a kiss. No two interactions are the same, but here's a basic example of how it might work. Stage I: So if you're enjoying a conversation with a girl and you want to start escalating physically you might say 'I love you_____, let's get married." and then hug her. If she's responds positively by laughing or whatever, that means you can step it up a little bit. Stage II: While you're talking, put your hands on her hips, and move in a little closer, keeping eye contact. If her body-language is positive (e.g, she wraps her arms on your neck, she locks eye contact with you, she smiles and flicks her hair etc.) then you're probably good to go for the kiss. Stage III: A good final test is to gently place your palm on her cheek, if she doesn't pull away or give you other negative signals, you're almost certainly good to go for the kiss. Other points to consider: Never ask a girl if it is "okay" to kiss her or do any of the thing listed above -- it's a serious turn-off. Read the girl's body language to find out if she's interested. Is she Moving closer or further away? Making eye-contact or avoiding eye contact? Remember that male and female sexuality are different: Guys are ready for sex pretty much at the drop of a hat, whereas women get turned on much more slowly, so the key is to be patient; you might have to go back and forth through these stages a few times in any interaction before the girl is comfortable enough to kiss you. Here's a really good video example of how good escalation looks: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G-_oBZfdd8Q

[–]csupernova 2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

[–]_TurnuptheSun_2 points 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

[–]Hank2121[S] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

[–]sefmz 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]_TurnuptheSun_1 point 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

In that case it sounds like you're afraid that by showing your interest you risk rejection. If you want to get a girl you have to get comfortable being sexual and showing your intentions, trying to think of the best thing to say to attract a girl will get you stifled and stuck in your own head.

The best way to beat this is to say literally whatever comes into your head in a conversation. Say things that you find funny, provocative, interesting, whatever, regardless of how you think the girl will react -- be honest with your emotions. If you suddenly find yourself thinking about how sexy her smile is, tell her so.

Being emotionally honest and open about your sexual attraction to the girl will help you a lot in the long run. This video goes into more detail and shows you how to show sexual intent naturally: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FeYlvdj-u74

[–]iamthesage 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link