Why is dating considered a "game"?

Gclive · 2017-01-31T04:41:28+00:00

This "game" is mindlessly tiring for a mid-late 20s girl! I think immature dating = game. Mature dating just rolls naturally.

DotMage · 2017-01-31T04:08:56+00:00

It's a game because we make it a game. If you stop treating dating as a game, then the tricks and strategies vanish and it becomes much more enjoyable.

DaygameCoach · 2017-01-31T06:28:25+00:00

It's just an easy comparison and games are fun. It's also considered an ocean. Sometimes a meat market.

TsarOfSaturn · 2017-01-31T08:39:43+00:00

Game is really a horse shit term to pick up girls to get laid for the night. Game = if she says/does this, then I say/do that. It's really a douchy manipulation thing. I've seen this a hundred times. Homegirl falls for some guys game at a bar. She complains to me about the disappointing sex she had the next day. Well no shit. He was spitting game to you just to get you naked. It was empty, there was no substance behind it. Game.

Now, if you actually work to improve yourself, and actually man up ask the girl for her number and take her on a date someplace, and just be yourself, you'd be amazed what can happen. Stick to your principles and what you believe in.

Not intended to be preachy, but I tried the game thing for years and never got me very far. Then basically I said fuck it, and it's been amazing

Thewelshpill · 2017-01-31T11:32:06+00:00

it's short for game theory - "the study of mathematical models of conflict and cooperation between intelligent rational decision-makers."

(i'm bullshitting lol)

t1mman · 2017-01-31T19:10:47+00:00

Some like to see it as a game because they can “play” people around. The old PUA mindset is mostly this, playing girls around, using tactics and deceptions to get girls in bed with them.

I see it more like a way to tell it should be fun, taken lightly, like playing a game WITH someone (not AGAINST someone) in order to get to know her and get her to know you.

1z1z2x2x3c3c4v4v · 2017-01-31T20:25:58+00:00

Its a game because finding someone, approaching someone, opening someone, creating interest and attraction, getting the number, contacting them in the future, setting up a date, going on that date, getting past the obstacles of a first date, escalating both physically (touching)and verbally (flirting), being more interesting then when you started to allow for another date...

...is like a crap shoot sometimes. Roll the Dice...to see if you get to the next step...

It is a game...the game of life!

PDX_PUA · 2017-01-31T21:12:21+00:00

Great question.

Its a game because we all have developed methods to get what we want, be that a partner for a night or a lifetime. Often what we want doesnt match up with who we are attracted to, and the comprise between the two is dating and the 'game'.

Men want sex. They dont always want a relationship. Women want sex too, but its much more risky for them to have sex because of the natural consequences. When a resource is limited, it drives competition. Men want the more limited and available women, and women want to have the best possible partner, and thus will want to compare potential mates. More competition. There is no way around the 'game' we are all players in it. Some more active than others. Some want to get what they need from it and get out, others enjoy the nature of it, thrive and play it forever. Deciding what you want and having the flexibility to change as needed are just a couple keys in having success.

Just some odd thoughts while on my lunch break.

MindsEvolve · 2017-01-31T21:49:09+00:00

Coming from a man's point of view - I believe when we refer to the "game" (for example, "I don't play games.") I think we're referring to being brutally honest vs. being tactful in our approaches. That's why there are certain do's and don'ts on a first date. (Don't bring up all of your baggage etc.)

Why can't we just be brutally honest all the time? Because of the human condition - we always want what we can't have. So we have to play into that a little. And that dance is certainly a bit of a game. For example, don't invest into a long message for your first text. Don't make yourself too available right away. The list goes on.

If anyone needs help on figuring out how to do that, feel free to PM me.

Title	Why is dating considered a "game"?
Author	nickstrr
Upvotes	1
Comments	9
Date	January 31, 2017 3:57 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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