“I reject your reality and substitute my own.” -Popularized by Adam Savage

Every person has a unique perspective formed by their collective memory of past experiences. Our personal histories, parents and the culture that we were born into play a large role in shaping who we are. We will refer to this unique perspective as one’s reality or worldview. To make sense of a new event, we reference it against other past events that have taken place in our lives. Consequently, two people may interpret differently the same event due to it being filtered through their individual perspectives. When something is outside of your reality, it can almost never actualize in your life; and for the cases in which it does, you will most likely mistake the reasons why.

If dating great women is completely outside of your reality, then you will never take the actions necessary for it to occur. This directly relates back to the chapter on limiting beliefs. There have likely been multiple opportunities which you have completely missed out on, simply due to them being outside of your reality and thus invisible to you. The limit of your reality may currently reside somewhere in-between being able to start a conversation with an unfamiliar woman, getting her phone number, kissing her within minutes of meeting, to having her take you home.

One evening, a couple years prior to my discovering the principles in this book, a girl invited me to go out dancing with her friends. We spent the evening dancing and ended up kissing. When it got late, the girl told me that she had to walk her friends back home, but that she would come back later and find me. To my slight surprise, two hours later she actually did come back alone. We danced some more before I walked her to the taxi stand. She climbed into the taxi’s backseat, scooted over to make room, and gave me a look which said: “Are you coming?” Rather than climbing in after the girl, I instead proceeded to slam the door closed behind her and tap twice on the taxi’s roof. It was not until two full seconds later, as I watched the car drive off, that I realized my mistake.

Due to my lack of experience at the time, it was still totally outside my reality that this girl may have wanted me to go home with her. It doesn’t take Scooby Doo to put together the clues of a girl inviting me out dancing, kissing me, and then coming back alone to the venue two hours later to find me. While a painful lesson to learn, my personal view of reality expanded that day.

While certain events may blow your reality wide open, broadening one’s reality is more often a process of it slowly being stretched wider and wider. As your personal view of reality expands, your mind will scramble to rationalize what you are newly witnessing. The purpose of this book is to provide an accurate model of attraction for your mind to grasp onto when new experiences conflict with your current erroneous worldview.

The human mind primarily classifies objects, people and situations through the drawing of comparisons. We measure wealth, beauty, freedom and happiness in relation to what we have previously witnessed or experienced in our own lives or in the lives of others. We label food as tasting good only in relation to food which we have previously found to taste bad. You may have felt intelligent while in high school, and then later only average while surrounded by university colleagues. The cute girl at your small hometown gym would likely appear less stunning if she was placed in a Victoria’s Secret lineup. Most people gauge their financial wealth in relation to those directly around them. Live in the Congo for a month, and you may come back feeling quite rich.

Our views of what we are entitled to are also measured in relation to what we have previously experienced in our lives. If you live somewhere in the Western world, you most likely would be upset if you were to lose electrical power for an entire day. However, if you grew up in a place where the rationing of electricity is the norm, then you probably would not complain as much.

In Germany, students revolted when a yearly $500 administrative fee was instated for studying at a university. Up to that point, attending university in Germany was completely tuition free. Having grown up in this system, the students felt entitled that they should not have to pay at all for their degrees, and were able to get the fee overturned. In the United States, where some students pay upwards of $50,000 a year for tuition, a relatively small additional $500 increase would likely not cause much outrage. American students are used to paying over $500 per semester in book costs alone.

If you are extremely desperate for a girlfriend, then any woman who simple qualifies for that position on a genetic level may seem adequate to you. If you have low self-esteem and no boundaries, then you will be more willing to accept putting up with someone who mistreats you. As you develop a healthier sense of entitlement, you may start adding additional criteria for a partner, such as the woman being physically fit, intelligent, trustworthy, and kind.

Excerpt from book: Fundamentals of Female Dynamics by Michael Knight

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