Is the player and hookup culture lifestyle a young man's game?

SinSlayer · 2017-04-07T02:19:13+00:00

This is completely false. As someone well past 30, let me dispel many if your ideas:

It's actually EASIER for men over 30 to be playboys as 1) They have a lot more experience dealing with women, 2) The (presumably) have structured a lifestyle condusive to having many women in their lives, i.e. a career, a home of their own, reliable transportation, etc. And 3) Women over 30 are more receptive to meeting and spending time with a man as women tend to reach their sexual peak in the mid to late 30s age.

Most men in their early 20s struggle with women for the opposite reasons; lack of experience, money issues, privacy or lack of personal space. Playing the field in your 30s is easier by far.

ext23 · 2017-04-07T08:27:20+00:00

Am 30. Was total shit with women until I was about 27. I get more sex now than I have in my life, with better looking girls of all ages.

I'm not wealthy, or attractive, or even confident when approaching strangers. I just have heaps of fucking experience in reading girls' signals. I can tell within minutes if I'm gonna fuck a girl or not and my intuition is never wrong. It's not that every girl I meet wants to fuck, it's just that I'm super efficient at knowing who my targets are. I have absolutely no problem just telling a girl midway through a drink/dinner/conversation 'hey we should go back to my place' and honestly I can't even remember the last time that didn't work.

Girls are attracted by experience and the sense that a guy knows what he is doing. Even the hottest 20 year old guy in the world doesn't have as much experience as a decent-looking 30 year old.

Also girls are not at their horniest when they are 18-22. If anything it's when they are in their late 20s to mid 30s. Older women have less bullshit standards than superficial young girls who are more worried about what their friends might think than whether they actually like the guy or not. Plus most younger girls have less of an idea about what sort of sex they like and are more likely to be shy about their bodies than an older girl. Of course I still love banging 22 year olds but don't write off the 30 year olds either bro. Once you get to this age you will realise how good it is.

recyclablebanthas · 2017-04-07T16:03:08+00:00

It seems like the kinds of guys I see pursuing this lifestyle with aggression and succeeding at it are younger guys (18-22) who come from well off families and have some status.

Richard La Ruina. David Wygant. James Marshall. Nick Sparks. Mark Manson. Sasha Daygame. These guys all pretty much destroy this supposed trend you think you're seeing. None of them appear to be from well off families. None of them had status before they developed their "game." None of them were so young before they really got good at it.

In fact, it's pretty safe to say that the guys you think are doing well at it, might not be doing as well as you think.

Being a targeted by gold diggers doesn't require any social skills.
Also, it's unfortunate to say, but if you aren't good at this, then you might be identifying people as good at it, when they really aren't. FEW people have any kind of mastery over it at such a young age.

Just because you're around some privileged people where you are, does not describe the scene as a whole.

I notice that this is also the age when women themselves are at their horniest, trying to take as much dick as possible, down to fuck in a heartbeat, and want to "experiment" while older women have "standards".

You're experiencing some bias, man. I have experienced a more nuanced situation.

There are some wild college girls at 18-22, but just as many who are plagued by self-consciousness and insecurity about their bodies, or stuck on hang-ups about what "love" and "sex" should be.
Older women (late 20s and older) have had some experience. Enough to have dropped unhelpful assumptions about sex and relationships that they might have had while they were younger. They're more likely to know what they want, and how to figure out what a guy wants. Some want to settle down. Some really really don't.

He is in a situation where parties and making friends in general is tougher.

False. You need to change some things up. Some suggestions:

Social partner dancing. Salsa, Lindy hop, Argentine tango, West coast swing. Depending on the city and area, any of these might be good options. The mindset, at least in the US, tends to be kind of hedonistic.
Hash runs. Running and beer. Win.
Couchsurfer meets. Meet people who are passing through and locals who have open minds.
Meet-up apps: to shop for other sorts of groups who might meet regularly. You might also search on FB for groups and activities in your area that fit your interests. FB will often have a membership list for a group that you might be able to browse to get an idea of what sort of demographics there are.

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tony18215 · 2017-04-07T06:19:27+00:00

Yes it is a young mans game.Young guys are usually in better shape,wearing the latest fashion and are in their primes.Most guys over 30 are balding or out of shape or blind to our new culture.Some men in their 30s have a chance but its easier for younger guys.Im 22 and I go to concerts and so many young hotties that want a guy in their age range and think if a 30 year old is hitting on them that they are an old perv for trying to fuck someone so much younger.you have a chance if you look young but the young bucks have an advantage and its more convenient for us.Also we can connect with young girls cuz we listen to the same music,follow the young trends, and have alot more in common then someone in their 30s.Even some older women want us too

Title	Is the player and hookup culture lifestyle a young man's game?
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Date	April 7, 2017 2:11 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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