This happened yesterday - So I see this semi-sexy girl walk into the cafe part of a grocery store. I follow her in, see her get a coffee and then sit down to wait for her food.

I hesitated a bit but eventually walk over and said something like "hey I just noticed you over there, thought you looked cool and wanted to meet you". She seemed open to it, I made an observation that she looked like she writes for an indie fashion blog. She liked this and to my surprise she invited me to sit down with her (as a newbie I pretty much just expect ignoring or rejecting).

I did and we got to talking. I have a YouTube channel for guitar playing and sometimes I tell girls about it for social proof or whatever. She acted interested and told me to show her and handed me her phone. I played her one of the songs and she said it sounded good. I've noticed that one thing I've gotten better at is observations and improvisation. I think I asked her about nightclubs and high heels and what she thought of them. This led to her bringing up twerking (a possible good thing that she initiated bringing up something so sexual?), she said she was ok at it & I tried to tease her and she say she was probably a pro at it, I don't think she heard me.

I am also getting better at sitting in the social pressure of the awkward silences, as l've read most guys would just bolt. Although when an awkward silence does come up, I'm pretty much just hoping and praying that she doesn't say something along the lines of "well I have to go now" or "it was nice to meet you".

As a newbie I'm also still crawling my way out of neediness. I felt throughout a lot of the interaction my subconscious mind was saying "please like me, please like me, please like me".

She brought up her ex a couple times so I thought I would counter it and say "oh yeah there was this girl I used to date who..." I actually haven't dated any girls but girls like guys who get other girls so whatever.

She asked for my fb info which also surprised me. Of all the flakes and rejections I've gotten, I feel this interaction I had with her went pretty well, and now I'm freaking out. As much as I may not like getting rejected its what I know.

She looked ok in person but when I browsed her fb later that night I saw that she was an absolute bombshell. One of the lingerie waitress girls in clubs, competing in bikini contests and what not. I'm probably putting her on a pedestal but it's hard not to when situations like this are rare for you.

I fear I may have come off with too much of a friend vibe. Not enough intent or a man-to-woman dynamic. But I honestly don't really know how to express that I want to fuck her other than saying "I think you're cute".

I message her later that night and she responds. Today I message her that I was gonna go exploring a nature preserve (wanted to switch it up from coffee, felt it would be a good situation for kino) and that she should join me. She responded that if work permits her that she would "let me know". Now it might just be me or lack of experience, but never has a girl texted a guy "I'll let you know" and then proceeded to do exactly that. This text is allowed followed by ghosting. Any advice?