I’ve never been great at expressing my sexual needs, but had enough girlfriends that it was never a problem. Now I’m in my late 30s and it’s a challenge.

Anyways, a women my age basically hit me up on an app a week ago and made a very sexually suggestive comment, which I responded to in a similarly suggestive way. This has happened before and 99.99% of the time that is the end of it. But this time, she messages me again like a week later, saying she was down.

What do I do? I know women’s preference is for the guy to make the plans, but I feel like in this instance, she would rather want to come up with the logistics so she can feel safer. Would it be a mood killer if I asked what her thoughts were in terms of when she’s free?

Sincerely thanks for any help, this has never happened before and I just want to end this super long drought, plus she seems amazing.