Alternatives to start getting into dating?

Jack__Knife · 2017-06-13T12:52:57+00:00

The Basics.

Have some style.

Having a great sense of fashion and taking care of your hygiene are two of the most important factors in determining how attractive you are to girls. If you are currently wearing striped sweaters, awkward looking jeans, and tennis shoes, it's time for a change. Fix up your hair, buy some shirts that fit you, and start putting together your ‘style’.

Stay clean. Girls are suckers for cleaned up guys. Shower regularly, floss and brush your teeth twice daily. You need to smell nice to make an impression. Unless you are Brad Pitt or Leonardo DiCaprio or some shit and can pull off a dirty look… never mind, if you were you wouldn’t fucking be HERE. Purchase or find some Good Will nice fitting jeans. If you're on the heavier side, baggier pants are probably better (but don't get lost in a sea of cloth). Skinny jeans that hug your package like Kim Kardashian hugging a doughnut, are probably not the best, unless you're sure you can pull off the anaconda vibe. Unless you are a Rapper, Baller, or Gang Banger…..pull up your damn pants, you look stupid. They look stupid too, but who cares? Purchase or find some trim nice collared shirts. You don't need a top hat, makeup, dragons or tribal patterns on your shirts to impress girls. A simple plaid, one-tone, paisley or striped pattern will do. I wear some pretty loud button downs, but they fit my style AND my body. I have a couple paisley ones that I toss on untucked with some ‘salmon’ relaxed jeans that I wear to wine events, that somehow make MILF’s wanna pounce on me every time. If you’re fit go ahead and wear fitted Tee’s. But if you are rocking that beer gut, for humanity’s sake don’t be sporting Under Armor, Tap Out. Or shit like it.

Purchase or find some soft, simple sweaters or jackets. Give girls an excuse to get cuddle up to you. V-necks if you are that ‘Call of Duty III’ guy. Crew necks and hoodies also work. Go with what you think will look good on you. Get a nice haircut. Yes, you might have to shell out more than $20 for a haircut. You cheap fuck but it will be worth it. Look through magazines like GQ or Vanity Fair and bring a picture along of someone who has the cut you'd like.

Get fit. You don’t need to be a gym rat 5-6 days a week like myself, but that’s my passion. Just do something physical that keeps you toned at least three days a week.

Be friendly & open. Girls are naturally attracted to guys who already have a lot of "social proof." To gain social proof, you must be "popular," which simply means you just need to make a lot of friends. So be more talkative and get to know the people all around you, not just the women you’d like to bang. Always smile and laugh. Try to have a good time with everyone. If you're not looking like you're enjoying yourself in life, you are wasting your time and mine. Get involved in what you like. If you do have hobbies, interests, or curiosities, find other people who share that share passion. Chances are you'll get along with them. Peruse them, have some sort of drive. Don’t do favors for women without reward. Don't let other people walk all over you and exploit you, that’s how you get in the ‘Friend Zone’. But do help out people who seem trustworthy and appreciative. And your social value will climb. Do things outside of school/work. The guy who's connected to a social scene outside of the same ‘ol social circle attracts a lot of people (guys and girls) because the same old shit show lacks any kind of sparkle.

Stand up for your beliefs. Women love guys who have goals in their lives and stand up for themselves. You do NOT have to agree with every single silly thing that spews out of her mouth, to get in her pants. If any girl decides to be mean to you, don't accept it. Tell her off, and be done with her. Don't be a total jerk about it though, but rather say it in a sense of talking to your little brother or sister. It's harmless, but you want to make sure they do the right thing. A polite fuck off sort of thing.

Don't be afraid of rejection. Of course, rejection is hard: No one wants to feel like they're inadequate in any way, and being rejected makes us feel that way. But being rejected is part of life. Don't put all your hopes and dreams in a single girl. Maybe put a little hope on her after you've put your dick in her, if you get that far. Even then it’s sketchy, but it's probably stupid to do so before then. If you're not being rejected some of the time, you're not trying. Normal guys get rejected all the time. If you're not being rejected, you're not putting in the effort. If I had a dollar for every time I got rejected, I’d have Oprah money. Keep on trying. Pull yourself up when a girl gets you down. Why be afraid of what a woman will say? Those who attracted to you will react positively! And those who don’t aren’t worth listening to anyway, so fuck them. If you sit around and mope about your problems, letting your self-esteem take a serious hit, you actually become less attractive to other girls. Try to stay happy and thick-skinned.

luaudesign · 2017-06-13T12:48:51+00:00

The only alternative I can think of is doing it the old fashioned way by having first contact in real life.

Do it.

rmbarnes · 2017-06-13T12:21:20+00:00

Find a good pickup system, go out and practice it by using it to cold approach.

Woujo · 2017-06-13T19:26:47+00:00

Thus I decided to give online dating a try, which I was and still am quite biased against, since I simply can't be bothered to put effort into being visually convincing before even exchanging a word with a person. The lack of quality pictures also reflects my success in these things and I don't think that I look like a complete potato. It also feels like a waste of time if I don't fake out some great pictures just to get into a conversation.

The #1 problem I see with chronically alone guys is that they have unrealistic expectations of relationships and dating and are "too moral" for the actual dirty realities of meeting girls.

Look at what you are saying. You are too afraid to approach in real life yet you are also "above" online dating. Well, if you think this way then you'll never meet anybody.

Title	Alternatives to start getting into dating?
Author	Ragnus
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Comments	9
Date	June 13, 2017 10:55 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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