How to not fail step number 2?

Frozen_Existence · 2017-06-21T18:06:09+00:00

It's less about what to do and more about what you need to become.

Find shit you are passionate about doing. Art, music, sports...anything and build yourself up. Give yourself an interesting life. Once you're happy with where you are, and happy with yourself step 2 will be a breeze. You'll have loads to talk about etc...in terms of personality you need to be comfortable with who you are and embrace it. Some people say be "alpha" but you don't necessarily have to be that. Just smile, laugh, be confident in what and how you say things and don't second guess yourself. Step one is always physical appearance but step 2 is always everything after and if you're trying to do step 2 without actually being a person with passions in his life then you will fail step 2.

Ex time: when my ex and I broke up I was completely broken as a person. But a few months ago I realized that before my ex and I dated that I loved drawing and playing the piano. So along with my new passion of working out I picked up again the things that made me happy. And because of that I saw the connection between that and picking up. Before I did that I was a mostly unhappy kind of guy who got close to 0 closes no matter how many times I went out. But since I did all that stuff I've learned to smile more and love myself. And now I sleep with 1-3 different girls a week. Depending on how I feel and if I want to.

It's all in the head. Once you're happy, once you're passionate about life and what it holds, and once you're completely comfortable in your own skin will you pass step 2.

fluffy-gorilla · 2017-06-21T18:15:23+00:00

This is common thing I see when guys begin their journeys. Guys will essentially build a straw man Alpha mail persona, that comes off as sincere at first but over time their Beta personality comes out. There is no immediate cure for this, its something you just need to work on day in and day out, picking up girls or not. In other words you need to convey more longer term value.

If a man wants a women to be attracted to him for more then the beginning of an interaction or even for longer then a few days, he must have something that adds value to the girls life for longer. This can be done in many ways, no two men are alike. Also, no two women are alike ether, each women will look for something different. You'll find what makes you special, and capitalize on that.

For example if you want a girl to date you for 10 years you must do something that will bring her value for 10+ years. Something like a stable life, a career, maybe promise of children. If you want a girl to like you for a week you must do something that will bring her value for a week, maybe you're the super cool foreigner she will bang during her vacation. If you want a girl to like you during a conversation in a night club, have a fun positive energy that she will mirror that. But if this is all you can offer she will stop liking you soon after the conversation is over.

In short, find out what makes you special and what kind of women will enjoy that then capitalize on your strengths.

I hope this helped.

DityRa · 2017-06-24T23:28:35+00:00

I'm still struggling in step one, how do I pass it?

Title	How to not fail step number 2?
Author	Literally_Autistic
Upvotes	2
Comments	3
Date	June 21, 2017 5:42 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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