Learning the proper way to hug in a flirty way can be a game changer when trying to establish a romantic frame right from the beginning of an interaction with a woman, or even to turn a friendly frame into a flirty one.

Generally there are three ways to hug:

  • Both arms over, or the Dad hug: for this hug she’d have both arms around your waist and her face pressed into you chest or shoulder. This hug isn’t totally useless in a romantic context because it will make her feel safe and cares for, and is the best option for a king hug.

  • One arm over, or the friend hug: the hug most common between two male friends, and has the least amount of sexuality or hierarchy. Avoid using this on any woman you’d want to consider you more than a friend.

  • Both arms under, or the flirty hug: Now unfortunately height does come into play here, you need to be at least as tall as her, but being a head taller is ideal. This hug is flirty for a few reasons: you will put your hands on her hips-waist, you’ll have your bodies very close, etc. But the key to this hug is lingering for a moment afterwards, with her arms wrapped behind your neck and yours on her waist. You might notice this is the position of a slow-dance. Ideally she will also be looking up at a sharp angle to see you. Be sure to make eye contact, maybe say something, and let go after only a second or two.

It’s incredibly powerful what just this one thing can do to increase the tension between you and a woman.