What are some good places for a socially awkward beginner to women to get his foot in the door with possibly making new friends and gaining casual sex?

LifeChoicesRip · 2017-07-16T08:19:51+00:00

Well it depends.... I saw your other posts and tbh it feels like you don't care what kind of person you end up banging/befriending.

It's not necessarily about location as about what you want. If you like a type of girl you'll obviously want to hang around the places that certain type hangs around. Some girls like partying some don't, some like going to the movies/gym/whatever. However, you don't care what kind of girl you end up with as long as you get to have sex with her.

Think this from a woman's perspective. Why would a woman go for you? You don't care about her as an individual, for you it's all the same whether she likes reading or spends her nights in a club. So why would they go for the awkward virgin who admits to having a ridiculously boring life and doesn't give a damn about them?

I think you need to work on yourself first. Develop interests WITHOUT the purpose of said interests getting you laid. Learn to appreciate people as humans and individuals, not just something to satisfy your wants and desires with.

Theef · 2017-07-16T07:43:19+00:00

but as a result the areas I can frequent are limited to just work, gym, and the movie theater

Uber goes wherever you want. Maybe those are the only places you're familiar with that are within biking distance, but I'd bet there are others.

Ideal locations are anywhere you can meet women you're interested in, and there are almost certainly some within Uber distance. The question is whether you're willing to throw 20-30 bucks towards getting around that way.

I'd focus on getting your life in order and practice having real conversations with whoever you run into, male or female. Set a goal to get to a point where you've got more options than the ones you've described – whatever that looks like. Pursuing goals like that will make you a better and more attractive person.

Dweebl · 2017-07-17T04:20:51+00:00

Ok look. It seems like you're trying to figure out how to get different results than you're getting, but without changing your actions.

There are women everywhere except in your bedroom right now.

The thing is that you're basically asking "How do I start getting to meet women without eliminating the obstacles I've imposed on myself or changing my actions."

If your issues are:

I don't drive

I'm socially awkward

There's only a few places I frequent

Then first solve those if you think they're handicapping you. Get a license, start studying/practicing how to become more proficient socially, and go to places you haven't been.

It seems to me like people come to this subreddit and don't bother reading any of the sidebar material or doing a simple search. There's YEARS of great resources on here, and frankly the majority of this skill comes from experiene, so the fact that you haven't considered simply going to the mall and practicing your day game seems to me like you're trying to get different results without changing your actions. Especially considering that one solution on its own basically addresses all your supposed "handicaps".

You said you're 30? At that age, there's not much allowance by women for a lack of independence in men. I'm not trying to be harsh, these just seem like your real issues instead of something inconsequential like the places you're limited to.

The point is you need to make yourself high value and there aren't really special places you can go where women are magically receptive to awkward, inexperienced, dependent men. Start reading all these resources. And for god's sake if you post a question, don't get angry with people that are giving you their best approximation of what your issues might be. Otherwise you're going to keep staying in a bubble you made to protect your ego instead of learning to get comfortable outside your comfort zone.

Sourdiezzy · 2017-07-17T04:39:45+00:00

If you are a socially awkward beginner, then you need to practice being social. You can not just go everywhere expecting to have casual sex with people it doesn't really work that way if you are a socially awkward person. Narrow down your main interests. It could be, literally anything because we are all different. But some examples could include, book club, yoga class, conventions, anything you're interested in. You will meet people at those kinds of things and be able to practice being social.

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