Is it just me, but girls get all weird and awkward when I try to talk to them?

xeneize93 · 2017-08-10T16:22:10+00:00

Are you awkward? Do you stutter? Do you make eye contact? Are you honest with your intentions? Are you getting physical too soon? Maybe getting too close? Are you boxing her in and she feels she has no escape route? Bad breath? Are you all sweaty? Do you smell?

2017-08-10T17:25:19+00:00

You are making them uncomfortable.

essexaspie · 2017-08-10T18:49:39+00:00

I wonder if a big part of it IS the girls, in particular in certain areas?

I've gotten a few lays from cold approaches now. I'm not remotely handsome. This would suggest that my game is not COMPLETELY awful (though it's clearly not great!). I must have the ability to NOT creep girls out on occasion, otherwise cold approach would presumably NEVER work for me, I guess.

Yet, I ALSO get a HUGE percentage of girls who, as you say, seem 'weirded out' after I smile and say 'hi'.

It's like they find the notion of a stranger talking to them a very odd thing here in the UK.

It's so nice when I come across a polite, sociable girl. It's why it felt like I was on a different planet when I went to America to game for a few weeks. My 'weirded out' reactions went down from about 85% to about 5%.

Sometimes I wonder whether it's about using only the EXTREMES of direct or indirect!

i.e - she either thinks ''This guy is talking to me because he thinks i'm hot. I know this because he just told me that!!'' (super direct)

or

she thinks ''This guy is talking to me because he wants to know the time. That's normal. Thus I won't look at him like he's a fucking Alien'' (super indirect)

And from there you are over the initial 'hump' of ''who the fuck are you and why are you talking to me?!'' and can maybe get a conversation going and give yourself a chance to get to work.

I tend to instinctively open somewhere in the middle. Maybe make a comment on something she's wearing, or a comment on the environment, ir ask how her night is going etc etc. I guess there's a slim chance that this could be why my insta-rejection/weirded out percentage is so high....

I need to experiment more with this theory!

PS - For reference, I only speak of NIGHTgame

2017-08-10T19:11:15+00:00

Maybe they find you intimidating in some way so they get nervous

JawounGeorge · 2017-08-11T01:46:45+00:00

your not giving us much to work with her bud

the_social_sage · 2017-08-11T02:44:43+00:00

Focus on being as comfortable as possible with yourself during these interactions. The more comfortable you are, the more comfortable they will be.

Trust me... this goes a LONG way. Focusing on comfort before thinking about what to say, verbal game, etc. is going to help you out a lot in the long run.

Title	Is it just me, but girls get all weird and awkward when I try to talk to them?
Author	Throw7away712
Upvotes	5
Comments	7
Date	August 10, 2017 2:29 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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