I have been in college for nearly 2 years and haven't gotten laid once nor had a girlfriend, and that is affecting my interactions with women, my social life, and my academics and career.

bluesclueshadnoclue · 2017-10-11T03:13:57+00:00

i honestly dont think u should focus on getting laid as if it's a goal. women are not scoreboards or goals. instead, find genuine connection and see how it goes for there.

PDX_Relationshipnerd · 2017-10-11T10:44:29+00:00

All I'm seeing here is an 'entitlement' mindset. Are you supposed to be guaranteed to have sex within 2 years?

The only thing stopping you from achieving your very low goal of getting laid is you. Just because you're in college and are an average looking guy does not mean you automatically should get laid.

Oh and those guys that are "uglier" or "fatter" who are getting laid, they don't have the entitlement attitude you have. Go fix that.

Chabubu · 2017-10-11T04:33:26+00:00

You need to get refocused. Go to the gym 3 times per week minimum. Get a trainer if needed. Getting fit will automatically boost your confidence. If you need a simple routine, download the strong lifts 5x5 app. In 3 month's you'll have some tone/definition, this time next year you could be jacked. That will give you a boost in all areas.

Set yourself some goals. You are focusing too much on getting laid. Did you really go to college solely to get laid? No. And if you got laid 100 times but flunked out you'd be a bigger failure than graduating with solid grades and not having slept with anyone.

How many books are you reading about relationships and dating? How much are you working on your looks, dress, hairstyle, fitness, etc? Your step one needs to be get yourself in order. You can only attract what you become. If you focus on your being a loser with no confidence, you will carry this around and project it. Focus on making guy friends first, and doing social activities.

You're focusing on the wrong things. Youtube corey wayne. Read his book "how to be a 3% man". You are creating your own bad experience. Find your purpose.

recyclablebanthas · 2017-10-11T14:32:55+00:00

I have failed numerous classes.

What do I do?

You're going to a college, for fuck's sake. Not a bordello. You're not there to get laid. You're there to build a part of your life. To better yourself.

If you want to have a better time, you need to start by taking care of your life.

a

Focus on grades.

b

Seek therapy. Seeing a therapist could really help you focus your energy in a good place.

c

Start off with baby steps, socially. Get out and choose something new for your social life. Get out and interact in mixed groups of people, men and women.

Hash runs. Trail running + beer + fit people = win
Couchsurfing meets. Hang with travelers and people who like to be around travelers.
Social partner dancing. Salsa, Tango, Lindy hop, West coast swing, etc. You really can't go wrong. Learn something fun and have an excuse to be close to a girl in a fun and non-threatening way. Also, you're going to learn how to get comfortable being in close and touching a girl and learning how to know when and how they like being touched.
Download the Meet-up app. Scan for groups near you that you share an interest with.

Dreeew · 2017-10-11T16:18:08+00:00

So funny for me to read all this, because I’m a senior in college now, and I’ve spent the last few years trying to convince my closest buddies that they should want to make moves on girls, and have relationships and hookups and such. But for some reason, they just don’t care.

In regards to finding relationships, they say, “It’ll just happen,” or “It’ll be better if I don’t force it, and it just happens naturally.”

Well that’s what they said freshman year, and now we’re seniors. Ive dated a bunch of cool girls, and there are still a bunch more girls I’ve noticed over the years that I wish I had made a move on and possibly had something with.

If it was “just gonna happen” they would’ve dated some of the cute chicks that they’ve met over the years, but no, they’re happy smoking pot and doing nothing with all their time.

It doesn’t quite click in my head, and I’ve never been able to reason them into action. I think they’re really locked in self-consciousness, but that has never arisen as a verbal conclusion from them.

Reading your post just made me think, “Fuck you guys (my buddies), for being so lame (not wanting to go out on the hunt)”

Dont know why I wrote this out lol, just got my brain rollin’.

-unrelated rant-

Edit: Getting laid doesn’t matter, in and of itself. Being realistic and happy about life, now and the way it’s going, is what matters. Take quantifiable steps towards real goals you have for yourself, and you’ll build yourself up till you’re unstoppable.

ThePUA_Baddie · 2017-10-11T10:53:06+00:00

every guy wants to get laid. what makes YOU different

NoCure010 · 2017-10-11T12:57:42+00:00

Focus on what is more important i.e, academics and career at this stage, everything will follow like a charm. Good luck!

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