So, I use this account only for TRP. Here's the background of the situation. I'm in my early 20's (from Europe), graduated law school.
First, a tl;dr : I wanna know if you think it's worth trying for the 2nd time to be with this chick. Really hot (9 or a 10), nicest girl i've ever known, good family, good habbits, she only had a few LTRs, known her for 10 years, didn't get to be with her 3 years ago because I was too passive and dumb to get her hints. Should I try to get with her again?
Now, the story...We'll call the girl "X". I've known her for 10 years. First we couldn't stand each other, then we became very good friends. Stopped talking to her for about 3 years (my high school ultimate beta years) then I got into college, started talking to her again. She entered the same college as me 1 year later so we started talking basically every day. She's really good looking, and I mean at least a 9. She was the best female friend I ever had, I had more fun with her than I've had with many of my male friends. We had a very good friendship, it was obvious to anybody that she wasn't seeing me as an orbiter, she enjoyed my company, I enjoyed hers, she never asked me for any favors, we only spent quality time talking, laughing and complaining about various things. She comes from a very good family, she's into sports, she goes to the gym, she has to be in good shape, she practices contact sports. She never "hooked up" with random guys, she had like 3 LTR. So, 3 years ago (when she got into college), we both found ourselves out of LTRs. We were talking a lot, and now when I look back in the messenger archive, it is very clear she was really into me. I was also into her, but I was a retard, always asking myself "what if she says no", so, like a dumbass, I waited for 4 months before I talked to her about being more than friends. She said that she was thinking the same thing for a while, but by the time the conversation took place, another guy also asked her the same thing, so she told me she needs time to think it over. She chose the other guy. My take on this is that she lost interest in me after 3 months of dropping not-so-subtle hints. I didn't get mad at her, I kept in touch with X over the time, but we stopped talking on a regular basis, like once in a month (her relationship with that guy lasted 1 year). Then, after 2 months, I started dating a girl, and then I really lost touch with X, haven't talked to her for a year and a half. Recently I ended my own relationship and I started talking again with X. Not much, just "Hey, how's it been, what have you been doing, how's life" that sort of stuff. By the way, I really did work a lot on myself over the course of the last years. Got out of the BP mindset, started hitting the gym (been so for about 6 months), have a job, my family is quite wealthy, so I get to have a very nice car. So, the question. Do you think it's worth trying to get her for the 2nd time. I know the RP mindset about it would be to forget about her, but I feel this is a special case. I'm fully aware that there's plenty of fish in the sea, but this is a really nice fish in every aspect. It wouldn't be hard for me to leave her be, but I feel like I would miss on a great opportunity just because of my ego of not asking her the second time. I feel like it would be a blue pill move, but I'm confident I can turn things around if I get to be with her.
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