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[–]situ139 12 points13 points14 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Go meet other girls, date and flirt with them.
This will clear your mind of your thoughts.
It's important that you've recognized that you are getting wrapped up over a girl, as long as you don't show her that you're too invested you're okay.
When you're alone, you can do whatever you want.
I've always found if I just wrote a long letter, saying how I feel and what I think helps me with this feeling. Getting it out on paper helps you not manifest it way too early in the dating process.
As long as you don't let the anxiety show and you deal with it.. you'll be fine.
[–]ImJustSo 20 points21 points22 points 8 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Man, you are so going to fuck this up if you keep thinking these things! Hope that's nut check enough lol peace.
[–]Goofydoodle 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
I think he knows that, its why he is asking for help. How is that ever gonna be nut check enough???
[–]ImJustSo 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Because he already knows what to do, and he knows he's being a bitch and he just wanted someone to say it. So I did. I gave him the help he asked for, sorry you didn't like it.
It's not like that's how the majority of my contributions go around here.
[–]Goofydoodle 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
He already knows? Then why would he ask? I don't mean to be aggressive i'm just not understanding you, what exactly is it that he knows how to do and why is he being a bitch?
[–]ImJustSo 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
He has stated in his post both the problems and solutions. He knows he needs to keep his cool so that he doesn't start texting her. He asked for reassurances, in the way that men can make you act stronger.
It's leverage for yourself, by using another person it can lend support to your willpower. You're placing your problem before others, so that you're more likely to do what you know you should. After all, others are counting on you to man up!
Don't you have brothers?!
[–]Goofydoodle 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Right, I see where you're coming from, you're giving him a push to motivate him to carry on with what he is doing. The way I interpreted it however, is that he is asking for help in how to feel less anxious. And no I dont have any brothers.
[–]ImJustSo 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I try not to give people advice on how to feel. Feelings happen and I think everyone is allowed to feel everything, and I think feelings are okay.
Actions are what matter and so actions are what I try to give advice on. Occasionally people need feelings and that's what I perceived. He wanted to use someone to create a feeling for himself to counteract another feeling he gets.
He has a strategy for dealing with what you perceived as anxiety, and I perceived his necessity.
He's competent though, he knew his feelings were going to interfere with his actions. He asked for help in a way that I understood.
Maybe I was wrong, but hey, we're all here to learn, teach, and share. It's all the same club.
[–]seductionthrowawayuc 6 points7 points8 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You're putting her on a pedastal
[–]NeverLace 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Serious case of oneits here, you better stop that.
[–]Confusion99 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
In
[–]HillarysCell-mate 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You're investing too much of your emotions into this girl. We've all been there before but it's important that you take a step back because if you keep going down this path, you're going to start acting weird in front of her, and you're going to scare her away when she senses you catching feelings.
Try thinking about things that you love, hobbies, tv shows, food, anything really to just get your mind off her. Start talking to other girls as well. When you realize that she is just another girl and there are plenty more just like her, you'll become more confident, relaxed, and enjoyable to be around.
Hope this helps! Good luck and remember to have fun!
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