Once you get a girl into bed, how do you overcome performance anxiety?

gdane80 · 2017-11-12T16:53:04+00:00

Bro. I totally have this problem too! Thank god for a morning wood.

2017-11-12T19:38:38+00:00

Don't make it "a performance" Get naked and see what happens. You need to let go of having a "specific outcome"

gemanepa · 2017-11-12T19:37:37+00:00

Mindfulness (the "being present here" kind) should be able to help because you need to get out of your head and start enjoying the goddess you have naked in front of you
If it's just performance anxiety I think you should just buy some Sildenafil (Viagra) until you gain some more confidence
If you smoke then clearly there's your problem~ stop it and normal blood flow to your penis will take 8 weeks to recover
Don't drink more than a glass of alcoholic drinks
If you don't exercise, start and with time the blood flow to your penis will also increase
Sleep well. If you are tired as hell, no matter how much a part of you want it, it ain't happening
It happens to all men at least once, but if you can't make your girl cum without using your dick then you got some learning to do in r/sex . You have fingers and a mouth, so start eating that pussy like you haven't eating anything in a week

decadearray · 2017-11-12T21:23:06+00:00

4 capsules of Horny goat weed an hour before action.

cpcallen · 2017-11-12T21:35:24+00:00

I don't generally have this particular problem, but I am ridiculously ticklish with people whose touch I am not used to. Like: there are lots of places they might naturally want to touch which I have to stop them from touching or I just can't relax at all.

I've generally found the best approach is to be direct: just to say that I am ticklish until I get to know someone well.

If you want to see the girl again then there's nothing to be lost by being equally up front with her: "sometimes it takes me a little while to get totally comfortable with someone new." Since you're perfectly capable of making sure she has an amazing time even without using your dick at all then it just becomes something for her to look forward to on a future occasion.

shakespeareSMG · 2017-11-12T23:08:49+00:00

Drugs or alcohol.

To be more proactive: exercise.

Communication.

And understanding partner.

2017-11-12T23:29:39+00:00

You overcome it before you even get into bed. Confidence is useful for more than just getting her attention.

apollosocial · 2017-11-12T23:36:29+00:00

Yea I get that, it's when you're goal oriented or results oriented. It's the same when approaching girls.

Try to change your mindset to enjoying the moment and enjoying all of it. This includes the kissing, caressing, every part of sex. Not just giving her an orgasm. The whole experience means more than that and presence is most important in sex.

Just like in approaching, enjoy the interaction not the potential result.

rickiracoon · 2017-11-13T05:24:50+00:00

Get good at foreplay and oral.

NunoHimself · 2017-11-12T17:56:52+00:00

Pm me, I have the right book for you.

Title	Once you get a girl into bed, how do you overcome performance anxiety?
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Date	November 12, 2017 4:12 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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