So I'm not sure this is the best place but it does play into seduction.

Everyone thinks of me as the "smart guy". Like when I get introduced someone it's "this is bob, he's a super smart guy". As far as I can tell no one means it maliciously or anything but to be honest I don't like being defined by just that especially at work and with women. For instance, I went to a leadership course and almost all the feedback I got was about being really good at problem solving or being smart. Nothing about my ability to lead people or influence others.

I've been working really hard to try and work on this but it still seems to be how everyone views me.