How Do I Flirt At Work Without Sexually Harassing?

Steve_Savage · 2017-12-26T08:32:05+00:00

You generally don't flirt at work, you talk to girls, yes and you are professional and businesslike, but as with all human interaction the undercurrent will be clear if she likes you and there's no need to be the office romeo.

Just say "lets do lunch" and what happens at lunch stays at lunch.

richardspanther · 2017-12-26T08:21:28+00:00

It's good to have that fear at work, because you're right: start hitting on bitches at work, and it's only a matter of time before somebody--maybe only an observer--blows the whistle and says you grabbed them in the pussy. Even if your flirting is rewarded and you get a lil' sucky sucky, when boss discovers your semen all over the place, he'll label you a rapist and you'll live and die alone.

2017-12-26T11:04:17+00:00

Be super careful man. My former boss was fired for not being smart about the crap he was doing. The people around you will always notice stuff and then rumours start. He was confronted by his superiors the day of the 20 year anniversary of the company. He got walked out from what i hear and had that look in his face we've all experienced at one point. Was it worth it?

maddawgpaul · 2017-12-26T12:47:53+00:00

Don't.

Sad-Boii · 2017-12-26T15:46:56+00:00

I'm 18 and work in a fast food btw if that helps

ls737100 · 2017-12-28T05:15:32+00:00

I would say cautiously. There are a few things you can do that do cross the line. For instance, good eye contact. Compliments are fine, in particular, keep it to clothing, ideas, comments, stuff like that. You can get away with teasing, giving a hard time, don't be mean about it. Touching can be done, but limit to forearm, upper arm, don't escalate.

Now, I have a great example of this. I work with a woman that I wouldn't probably date, but I've been practicing this stuff and looking for anyone to practice on. This ones an admin, so, I give lots of compliments, when new people join the team, I introduce them to her with a brag that if they need anything, she knows how to take care of it, I've given her a hard time, about wearing certain things, like "did I miss the memo on western day or something"?

The result, I've definitely generated attraction, but no one has crossed any lines. She knows I'm flirting but no one else has noticed. She does however take care of anything I want. She walked by the other day, I asked where to get a box of Kleenex and she said don't worry, and brought one too me. She knows I have strict dietary needs, so, she always makes sure I'm taken care of.

My advice would be, be really subtle, do some of the things above, don't escalate at work, and look for indicators of interest. If I were to want to pursue this one, I'm pretty sure I could make up a reason to hang out at a bar, I.e., an event in the are several hours after work, tell her I'm looking for a place to hang out until my event, does she have any recommendations. Later I'd mention I was going to go check out her place. Stop by if you want. She'd stop by I'm sure. Btw, my girlfriend in college was a coworker and I did something similar, could tell the attraction was mutual, created opportunities to hang out with me after work. Come to think of it, once we were dating, I was literally "grabbing her by the pussy" at work, but she was grabbing my ass and dick when no one was looking, so, it was sort of mutual.

Title	How Do I Flirt At Work Without Sexually Harassing?
Author	Sad-Boii
Upvotes	1
Comments	7
Date	December 26, 2017 7:23 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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