So... I don't think dating is as bad as some people on reddit seem to believe, but still, sometimes the amount of effort you put in only to not achieve anything anyway, can drain your motivation. Example - pretty recently I've been ghosted by a girl I've had high hopes for. It seemed like everything's going well, we have good chemistry and then "bam!", she ghosts me. Why? Well, I certainly can't ask her.

So, /r/seduction, how do you get yourself motivated o try again after a situation like that? To reiterate, I'm asking for practical, specificied advice - stuff like "I tell to myself XYZ" or "when I feel done I go and play tennis for 5 hours", not esotherical things like "you have to find motivation deep in your own heart, man".

The question is mostly addressed to guys, but input from women who try to be more proactive in dating is also welcome.