Wishing a girl that flaked on you a happy birthday

dondraper36 · 2018-01-29T12:55:32+00:00

You just wasted minutes of your life writing about a Girl that doesnt care for you at all. You even think about what she is going to think, DONT DO IT!

You say you moved on but remember her birthday? How that? Why would you even wish her a happy birthday, whats your reason?

And you shouldnt care whether she thinks if you are needy or not. Do you think you are needy? If not, then dont worry what she thinks.

Leionart · 2018-01-29T09:54:19+00:00

Honestly, I would do the opposite, it sounds fucked up, but don't even waste anymore energy on this girl. This post tells me you haven't completely moved on.

Next her. Don't reward bad behavior. The sooner you stop thinking about this girl, the better. Spend time thinking about girls who are actually into you, not ones that flake and give you lame excuses.

Been there done that.

iHasABaseball · 2018-01-29T18:36:13+00:00

It seems that whether I congratulate her or not, my behaviour could be interpreted as needy.

She doesn't care that you exist. So nothing you do is interpreted in any way. Unless she had a legitimate emergency, flaking is indicative that she's just simply not attracted and already perceives you as less valuable than her. Which is a pointless hole to try to get out of -- it leads you to change your behavior to try to convince her you're worthy, which is a double-edged sword...sure, she might find the effort appealing and offer something in exchange for the attention, but at the same time, a guy chasing a girl simply kills the vibes and it's unlikely she'll ever offer anything more than a hangout session here and there cause she likes feeling wanted. And at the end of the day, you're not being your genuine self; you're being someone you think she might like. People can smell faker-y a mile away in those scenarios and it just ends up being awkward. Waste of energy and you'll more than likely end up emotionally downtrodden when all is said and done.

If you want to wish her a happy birthday, go for it. If you think it's going to result in some exceptional change of course on her part, you're dreaming.

If she's even mildly attractive, you'll be one of 100 people who wish her a happy birthday on Facebook. If you want to talk to her, then message and talk to her and see what happens. Don't be one of the other 40 dudes wishing her a happy birthday -- throwing out subtle hints and hoping she has a revelation about how amazing they are.

Overall, go do something better with your time than obsessing over this one. You can pretend you don't care as much as you want, but here you are going completely out of your way to ask this question to a group of random strangers.

You need to go find other chicks who care about you.

2018-01-29T18:08:38+00:00

“Happy Birthday (insert girl’s name here)! I would send you something sexy, but the mailman told me to get out the mailbox🎂🎁🎊”

2018-01-29T09:17:37+00:00

Yeah just a "hey, happy birthday!".

She flaked on you and you should count this girl out. Though it's her birthday, and you really don't have a reason to not wish her a happy birthday. But it shouldn't be anything more that that

Title	Wishing a girl that flaked on you a happy birthday
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	1
Comments	7
Date	January 29, 2018 9:00 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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