TLDR- read last paragraph

For the last year I have come to different conclusions about why I have no success with women.

  1. I am not very versatile in my hobbies and activities "other social people do".

  2. My interests and views vastly differ from other people and almost nothing aligns with someone else. I can't even create the environment Mark Manson talks about where my desired people would be present amd where I would frequent to find girls with similar taste.

  3. My humour is beyond dark.

  4. My musical taste is more or less limited to metal altough I do not dress like a metalhead. People have no idea I listen to such stuff.

But I don't care about this. I think I am pretty unique and I feel proud about myself. I don't feel weird. I think it is cool to work in a bank, be a dark humoured guy who can also make people laugh with lighter jokes and who loves metal and I have no problem talking to people and be center of the party. I have driven down a notch my negativity (my first thread on seddit) but I am still not able to accept people that have different interesrs than mine and I know its okay.

But the main problem is that it takes so much time for me to get attracted to a girl that I get friendzoned myself because I seem to be indecisive. Also many questions that should be asked amd game that should be played isn't thre just because thre is no particular feeling that would motivate me to do it. Many times I will stumble upon taken girls and they will tell me that so much later because they think I am not hitting on them or showing genuine interest (and even I don't know If I am doing it in the beginning). It is not like I see a girl and I have this feeling of " Yes, I like her , I should talk to her". I am probably differently wired because great ass and big boobs don't make me just want to go and talk to a particular woman. Even more If I hear some dumb things coming out of her mouth I won't even go near her. But the ones I like in the end are those to whom my attraction grows slowly. So - basically my different character and this weird slow attraction thing is killing my chances of procreation. (I have normal test levels btw). Do know such instances? What is the way to fix it? I don't want to change my character but I want to get attracted to girls quicker.