Something I been thinking about lately. When talking about AA, people commonly refer back to our tribal times; saying when you saw an attractive woman and approached her, an alpha male can come around and kill you. Or you can get rejected/banned from the tribe and your survival is threatened. Thus it is instilled in us to naturally have some fear of approaching.

But I don't think people cold approached back then. In tribe settings of maybe 50-150 people, everyone most likely knows each other either through family ties or family history (your great-grandparents knew theirs). So this brings up two points.

  1. You won't get kicked out of the tribe that easily. Think of the times you upset your parents/family. Most likely you weren't banned from seeing them.

  2. Relationships/marriage were most likely arranged by the family or forced onto the woman. There was no need to cold approach and build attraction.

Also, if it is evolutionary, then kids should have AA. But that doesn't seem to be the case in my observations. Yes, kids don't typically approach people the way we do, but AA is mostly concern of other's opinions. And kids definitely do not give a fuck (probably up until around 7-8 years old)

I think AA comes from modern social conditioning. It's not a natural thing.

What do you guys think?