An old fuck buddy hit me up over the summer while I was in the midst of my oneitis fantasy with something to the effect of "I Miss your face etc " I let it go, no answer no reply, I just wasn't interested in persuing anything at the time. Fast forward to a week ago, clearing out inbox messages removing all traces of my oneitis, & I come across the message again. I respond in kind saying "hey going through these, & I just wanted to say hello"

She responds, & we get to talking about our little stint together. She was the chick I got under to get over my oneitis the first time around ( & yes oneitis with the same chick 2 different times a year or so apart.. im an idiot i know ). Any more details you need to anylyze me let me know..

quick backround: She's a solid 8.5-9 . I used TRP on this girl before i knew TRP existed, totally without my knowledge, & it worked perfectly for 5 months. I wasn't attached or needy, I wouldnt reply right away to texts, & made it seem as though i had options ( even though I didnt) we went dutch when we went out, or just always stayed in & had great sex. Complete opposite of my oneitis, & an upgrade from 7 to an 8.5/9 .. She was not my priority i liked her, & she treated me great, but i was just not into persuinig it or trying to lock it down. Her feelings escalated, & mine stayed even keel i played it cool not alowing myself to get too attached ( it almost happend i mean smokin hot ) then it just ended we went our ways.

Back to present, we get to talking about our stint together she told me she felt her feelings were stronger than mine, so she wanted to move on etc, or she would have gotten crazy, she said "your a good guy, & didn't need that kinda crazy" Shit "good guy" ?? Damn.. not what I wanted to hear. Hoping its better/different than nice guy.

I'm in midst of reading no more mr niceguy , & while I can identify that I display a fair amount of nice guy traits, I dont feel i have that overall image, but I've heard "your a good man" "your a good guy" from both male, & female friends relationships thorughout my adult life.

Is it the same?