How do you approach things with girls who are recently out of relationships?

LingeringGnome · 2018-03-19T19:31:15+00:00

Relationships end for one main reason:

The fun to drama ratio went from 90/10, to 70/30, to 50/50, to 30/70.

You handle women fresh out of relationships the way you handle women in ANY situation. You're playful, confident, emotionall-centered, fit, and good in bed.

Vetox23 · 2018-03-19T21:08:01+00:00

I am no expert but I like to approach things in a methodical way. Thus,

Goal (What do you want from/with her?)
Context (How do you know her?)
Evaluate and Assess the Target
Determine your own Attractiveness
Respect Yourself

(1A) Basically you have to decide whether your goal is to have sex with her or be in a relationship with her and stick to that goal. You cannot proceed with ambiguity, you must know what you want before walking into it or you will certainly fuck it up; don’t change your mind later either.

(2A) How do you know this girl? Did you meet her through a friend? Did you meet her randomly in public? Did you meet her in a class? Did you meet her on Tinder? Depending on the origin of interaction, you can derive more motive and information about her than others. If you met her on tinder and you matched, and she’s willing to go on a date with you because she just broke up, it shows more inclination towards the possibility of sex. If you met her through a friend, you may have been at a social gathering where you could pick out some tiny bits of information regarding her personality, sense of humor, sexual topic sensitivity, what she does during her leisure time. If you met her at school, you probably don’t know much about her and will need to build better rapport before making that move (Just because she met you at school doesn’t mean she won’t fuck you; just like if she met you at the club it doesn’t she will).

(3A) What type of girl is she? Does she give off more conservative or liberal indicators? Does she cover up a lot when outing? Does she abstain from drugs, alcohol, and other vices? Is she a wild girl,chill girl,uptight girl, etc.? You have to identify what type of girl she is, in order to ESTIMATE and TRY to gauge your best possible approach to achieving your goal with her. If she is more conservative you may have to be more careful with her and pace accordingly. This may vary if she’s in an overwhelmed emotional state, and can void her general conservative girl attitude. If she’s more easy going, doesn’t display any prudish characteristics, this may indicate she more easily rolls that way. A girls sexual inclination can vary based on many factors but mainly their: values, beliefs, morals, past experiences and their sensitivity to social formality. If she constantly gives you indicators that she’s really into you then you should proceed smoothly. I would like to point out that you should generally trust the personality you derive from your assessment of her because that is all you will be able to get from her. Your assessment will not always be correct, depending on your complete method of assessment that goes on in your head and that’s okay, you won’t get every girl and that’s fine. But do not let the anomalies fool you. You must be quick to adapt if you see a sudden emotional change.

(4A) So as of now, how much do YOU think this girl likes you? Be modest, don’t over or underestimate. Be blunt with yourself. Do her eyes batter like wings of a hummingbird or those of a duck. If she’s batting like a duck, shit’s not gonna fly as quick. Does she play with her hair when looking at you or near you? Does she do things to get your attention? Does she subtly touch you, or unapologetically and overtly touch you? Try to gauge how much she likes you, not just physically but personality wise; holistically. Does she want to talk to you a lot? Or does she reply every now and then? Attractiveness as a whole (physical and personality), is a grand motivating factor but it can also be built as it progresses.

(5A) Respect yourself. If you’re going to improve, do it for yourself and not for an individual woman. That woman can walk out the door the next day and all your worldly love struck endeavors have gone to waste. Live for you, whether in love or sex. Your self-improvement, whether it is growing a beard, getting fit, adjusting your hygiene, modifying the way you dress, and other social skills should not be tailored to a specific woman. Just because Kristen likes a beard, doesn’t mean Ashley likes beards. Just because Rachel likes it clean-shaved, doesn’t mean Rose like it shaved. Rose might like it styled and trimmed down there (though a good trim or shave is usually preferred). All people have their preferences. So when you look at yourself in the mirror, don’t ask what she prefers. Ask yourself what you prefer. Ask yourself what characteristics, attributes, skills, looks, DO YOU WANT TO HAVE? Eventually this love for yourself and building confidence in knowing you are great for building who YOU want to be will enough. This is especially true for love and lust. If it’s lust even better, there’s no emotional attachment and if you don’t hit it off OH WELL. On to the next girl who will appreciate you lovingly or sexually. Love and Sex is a gamble my friend. If you want to win big, you have to prepared to lose big. Cheers mate, trust the process and enjoy the journey through trials and triumph!

Key Ground Rule: If you want her, you have to be prepared to lose her

BestSC86 · 2018-03-19T21:39:30+00:00

Be the fucking awesome dude......that they dreamed of when dropping their Ex.

The reason that PUA dudes get hung out to dry with girl recently out of relationships is that these girls are actively pinging like hell for dudes that are being a character just to get in their panties. So the usual scripts and inauthenticity routines seems to set their radars warning bells off in spades.

The usual clubs girls don't give a shit as they expect the dude in front of them is running PUA and simply choose an acceptably attractive actor to fuck that night.

Unless, of course, she is just looking for some dude to fuck to get back at her ex or just because she doesn't have ready dick around at the moment...then treat her as a club girl.

But, if you are talking about the girls that are actually "heartbroken" and worried about being "hurt" again then you have to be fun, entertaining, no drama, and authentic.

2018-03-19T23:21:53+00:00

Flirt with her and see how she reacts.

LingeringGnome · 2018-03-19T18:49:06+00:00

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WIA20XX · 2018-03-19T23:14:10+00:00

Realize that you're just the rebound, nothing permanent can happen. Not really a situation for a freshman seducer.

LingeringGnome · 2018-03-19T18:49:59+00:00

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