Can we come back after being too clingy ?

LingeringGnome · 2018-03-21T02:30:20+00:00

You can recover with some women by backing off a few weeks (IE not a single text).

This is what I call a "needy cleanse". Women don't hang onto minor things like this for long. They'll likely forget. Also, most guys who are needy also lack confidence and an ability to get to the point. So my "reach out" text addresses all those things in a simple line. Send it to ALL the women who ghosted you for being a needy, non-confident guy, at 4pm:

You: Hey Sarah, it's Netflix and beer night at my place, you're welcome to swing by. Dress hot or my butler won't let you in.

That will get you a few responses at the very least.

You might have a couple girls cool with coming over. Prioritize the one you like most, cancel on the other. You'll also get non-responses. Never, EVER double text women (within a week) you've never slept with or respond with "?" when they don't respond back. It's pushy and creepy.

It's important to remember that this exercise is not just about a chance to get laid that night. It's also about learning how to be decisive and confident.

You're going to feel great about sending that text. Why? Because you're acting like a god damn man. That's why.

No, "hi-h--h-hi S-s-s-sarah....I-i-i--i was wondering w-w-w-what your d-d-d-doing? En-jjoying the w-w-weather?"

Greenmountainsman710 · 2018-03-20T23:51:11+00:00

Move on. Fine some new ones.

tab13092 · 2018-03-21T20:12:24+00:00

Honestly my dude, your only hope is to just chill out and back off for a bit.

But, the key to this is you have to genuinely pull out. As in, not check up on her social media etc.

Trust me, when I first got back in to dating a year or so ago after a LTR I too intitally was clingy/needy. Turns out I was trying to fill a void within myself through the acceptance/affection of another.

Take time to reflect inward, and figure out/resolve the source of your needy behavior because no matter what you tell us or yourself there's a reason and it can be solved if you're just honest about it.

I took time off from dating to work on myself, and now with some time and patience I've subconciously rewired my mind to simply not worry about it. I have girls chatting me up daily, and I'll conversate but if it comes that I have nothing to contribute anymore I simply stop talking.

Before, I would always try to keep a conversation going (being needy) and as a result just fill in voids with lame complements or stupid shit. Now, I have more then enough fulfilling things going in my life that I can let a conversation taper off and feel no need to continue. And you know what happens? These girls still reach out just as regularly.

Ultimately, my take is if someone is interested they'll go the extra mile to contact you. So, let them do the leg work and focus on yourself in the mean time.

Title	Can we come back after being too clingy ?
Author	megaOga27
Upvotes	1
Comments	7
Date	March 20, 2018 10:02 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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