The importance of characterizing yourself

javix64 · 2018-03-31T15:57:50+00:00

yeah man! i'm with you. that's is the best way for that. is like David X, he is direct and confidence, his character is according with him. I like the good moments with a girl, im a happy boy and i like do funny moments with a girl, i love when she's smiling about some joke. But i know, that is not enough for fuck with girls, i think i need something more that i dont know what is, for that i like read and learn about another pickups artist and get the best for everybody for take own character. You should be congruent about all things you do, that is the only thing you take care when you are with a girl.

recyclablebanthas · 2018-03-31T16:23:30+00:00

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But I feel like I'm lacking a personality nowadays. How do I have my own charisma? I thought to myself. I gotta find a TV show that has a very similar character to my visual appearance. I think that's the best way.

Consider that you're making this too complicated.

You have a personality. The issue is that you don't think some people will be struck by it.
You aren't locked into this idea of only being able to act like someone else you can find who happens to look like you.
The real thing is about what fucking resonates with you. If that's Ferguson, than the truth is, THAT is part of you.
Take a little bit from different influences. Look at Tarentino. He makes references and remixes stuff from movies left and right and does so slyly, while making it his own. That's most of what we do as humans: remix ideas.
And limiting yourself from part of what you are, just based on the idea that your insecurity tells you that people might maybe think that you don't look like someone with a particular kind of humor.... Is damn silly.

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For instance, Keanu Reeves, the most handsome on walking god's green earth, has a distinctive talking style that I find pretty bad. I don't think he has to act that way. He could act mysterious.

Listen to yourself.

Reeves has success on a level that many never reach.

He is certainly more than able to pull if he wants.

Your assessment of his style is utterly subjective and honestly, I've never heard any girl I know say anything remotely like what you've said.

So it comes off as convoluted and untrue. A forced justification for you to force yourself to be what you're not.

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To put it simply, I just wanted to say this. There is more important than being witty, pickup lines.

I mean, pickup lines aren't that important. Awareness, being present, etc, are.

"Know yourself and act accordingly"

You're not talking about knowing yourself.

Your contention is that we should tailor ourselves and limit ourselves to suit what we think will go over well.

This is try hard and will actually have the opposite effect of what you want.

grubapanda · 2018-03-31T21:41:32+00:00

You can’t buy charisma and get in one day. Charisma is what you build throughout whole life. Trying new things, meeting new people, getting out of comfort zone etc. this is how you build it

Title	The importance of characterizing yourself
Author	bsbnsc
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Comments	3
Date	March 31, 2018 3:45 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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