How can I be that guy

Steve_Savage · 2017-12-22T00:19:53+00:00

Self-improvement. If you like yourself, others will like you.

stevenmarkryan · 2017-12-22T03:46:48+00:00

If I act like I don't really care about this chick, she would lost interest and leave.

Wrong. It's like the cat analogy. The person who ignores the cat is almost always the one the cat ends up liking the most and seeking attention from.

Don't be overly available, set dates a week in advance, don't text her all the fkn time, don't text her after a date saying "OMG I HAD SO MUCH FUN" "Can't wait to see you" etc, see her once a week until she is reaching out to you then set a date whenever she reaches out etc. Women (even if they tell you otherwise) like the process of falling for someone over time like an unfolding love story, the mystery of not knowing exactly where they stand, wondering why you are so busy, wondering if you are seeing other women, thinking about you, spending a week anticipating a date and what will happen, wondering when they'll hear from you etc.

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FastDario · 2017-12-22T00:31:06+00:00

Be a leader. Be a sexy man. Own everyday situations. Master your body language. Never seek women's approval. In other words, master your fundamentals first. I've only had 10 so still new to the game but these are key. Own your vibe.

jano2525 · 2017-12-22T03:49:56+00:00

Talk comfortably with other attractive women in the bar to show you have options and are friendly. This works well if she has friends there and can't give you all her attention all the time.

ImJustSo · 2017-12-22T04:08:23+00:00

I just talk without any seeming motivations. I talk about things I'm interested in and I become interested in who they are. Then I keep talking and make jokes, I keep talking and I make profound emotional observations about my life and theirs.

I walk up to women or I message women online that I'm interested in and I don't care where it goes, because I know that anyone can walk away from me at anytime, and I know that I can, too.

I see it as my job to do only that. Why do I do that? Because the way I see it, everything I'm doing is fucking work. I've presented myself and shared myself and that's it. It's not my job to like me, it's her job. I'm already talking to her, so if she wants more than just talking, then give me some clues.

The clues I get are, "Haha! You're funny! Here's my number so we can text."

Then it's, "Oh my god....you're great, we should hang out!"

And then my job is to decide when to meet up and what to do.

I don't ask for shit because I don't want shit that a woman doesn't want. Gross. So if she doesn't say she wants it, then she ain't fuckin getting it.

Also, I pay attention. It's my job to see what she wants. Me. If I don't acknowledge that she wants me, then it's my loss, because I'm a moron if I can't tell.

Women don't keep talking to men they hate, think are creepy, or just don't want around them. If they want space, they get it. If they go away, oh fucking well. I don't care, she didn't want me, and that's fine.

I've been speaking to 4 women tonight, I've treated every one of them the same. Two haven't responded since my last message (but they will tomorrow, I'm sure) and the other two, I haven't responded to their last message, because I will tomorrow. I'm going to bed, because I've got things to do tomorrow.

recyclablebanthas · 2017-12-22T12:03:59+00:00

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It seens like, in their nature, chicks really do want to chase somebody.

No. Really, there are a couple options:

A.) Girls who want to chase a guy and don't feel comfortable in a dating situation unless they're constantly having to play a manipulative game with the one they're dating.
B.) Girls who don't want to play games. Though these girls will still want to be with a guy who has self-respect enough to have something else going on in their lives than just a girl.

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If I act like I don't really care about this chick, she would lost interest and leave.

What you're describing here is how to attract the first girl, by not caring, which gets you the girls who are into playing manipulative games.

But you're pairing this up with the results you'd get if you tried to manipulate a girl who's not into games, or just not into you either way.

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If I care too much about her, she would take advantage of it and act more hard-to-get.

You have the wrong idea here about a few things.

"Caring too much about her" is really describing desperation, not caring.
And in this situation, you'd actually see two results. The Manipulative Girl would be turned off because you don't know how to "play the game." Or they might be trying to get you to play the game the way they want. Meanwhile the Non-Manipulative Girl would not be "taking advantage" of it, so much as simply being turned off.

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The answer here is, you NEED to have your own life. It's not about making it look like you don't care. It's about having a life for yourself so that you're not sweating some girl all the time, texting and all that, or constantly seeking validation from her.

There's nothing wrong with showing interest. The problem is when you're insecure and constantly seeking validation, it taints any attempts to show interest and makes them seem desperate.

circlhat · 2017-12-22T23:03:43+00:00

Care correctly, you don't need a amazing life to get women. You need to learn how they operate, we call this game because it is touching her subconscious.

I found multiple girl friend work, you see I'm not going to ignore text, I answer text as soon as possible, I don't give a fuck if I come across needy, I have needs so I suggest multiple women, women don't mind if you have sex with other women.

If you have 10-12 women your activity dating your time split between them will make you look busy

Title	How can I be that guy
Author	bsbnsc
Upvotes	10
Comments	11
Date	December 22, 2017 12:17 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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