Girl goes cold. "I'm looking for someone with more personality in bed"

BozoCardozo · 2018-04-30T13:24:55+00:00

Hey, if it makes you feel any better, you still had sex at the end of the day. Most guys can’t even get that far

TangoZulu · 2018-04-30T13:31:33+00:00

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recyclablebanthas · 2018-04-30T17:12:32+00:00

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Girl goes cold. "I'm looking for someone with more personality in bed"

True story guys.

Want a true story? Here's one: most people don't understand how to articulate what they want or how they want it.

She says she wants "more personality," which means fuck all, really. Some people just like different temperaments in bed. You might change yourself to become what she wants, only to turn off other people.

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Girl who is super into me, texts me non-stop, is madly chasing me, goes cold after sex.

No, what likely happened, based off of this, is that it was all about the thrill of the chase for her. And once that was over, she only had you, the real person, in front of her. Not the idealized fantasy she imagined before she had you.

No person, no relationship can live up to that.

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Is sex that fucking important? I know it wasnt my best perfomance but fml

Missing the point. The point is not about "rocking someone's world." One can get "good" at sex and still be just "meh" to some people.

The point is that you let her take your eye off the damn ball. She gave you bullshit to cover for the fact that she fell for a fantasy instead of you, and apparently didn't realize what happened when the bottom fell out from under it all.

And you bought it.

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I cried like a bitch yersterday. Still a bit butthurt. My masculinity is shattered.

She doesn't know herself or didn't want to explain herself, and you get to feel like something is wrong with it probably isn't so bad.

What you're going through is natural. And so is what she is going through. People are imperfect things that cause each other pain all the time, often out of ignorance.

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Make me feel good please cause I'm destroyed. My self-esteem has taken a hit.

I'm not going to sugar coat this. Despite the fact that this girl fed you bullshit just to give you a reason for breaking things off, there are some potential issue to look out for:

That you might need to plug in better; pay attention to her during sex. A lot of what's "right" or "wrong" in sex is something you can only really know by paying attention to her feedback as things happen or as you do things to her body.
That you might need to study up on those things in sex that can be known objectively. You should be familiar with a number of sexual positions. You should know about the male and female g-spots. You should know where the clitoris is and you should know that it shouldn't necessarily be gone to town on. You should know about the different male orgasms. And the different female orgasms. If you don't know some of these things, look them up. Information Age and all that.

Title	Girl goes cold. "I'm looking for someone with more personality in bed"
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	3
Comments	7
Date	April 30, 2018 6:15 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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