Finally realised a big mistake i made.

eleminionur · 2018-05-31T15:39:29+00:00

Opposite of the mystery method, basically?

Mystery seems to teach to be 'aloof' and uninterested. 'Never show your intentions first' etc, but like you, I find what happens is that the girl simply moves on and finds someone who IS interested since girls never make the first move unless you are like a 10/10 in looks or famous or something

TheArchdduke · 2018-05-31T15:15:19+00:00

Happened to me too. The greatest frustration is that, when you take action on a girl you know she liked you after waiting for too long, attraction might have dissappeared. You lose SO many girls by doing this.

Nikuyoku · 2018-05-31T23:47:30+00:00

How are you showing disinterest?

Disinterest is a tool to hook their interest and curiosity for 8/9/10s since they normally always get people's attention. It doesn't work as well om 6s since they are more used to not being paid attention to.

Then theres also the difference in showing a lack of interest. People usually are showing passive disinterest, in which they do not do anything and just ignore the girl. This kinda falls short as she doesn't even know your presence. A better way of showing disinterest is for example opening a set and negging her or telling her theres lint on her clothes but ignoring her afterwards.

firegreen_leafred · 2018-06-02T03:36:57+00:00

Yep. Show your intentions. Girls hate when guys try to be nice to them in order to get into their pants. Make a move and always be escalating

LimitedContributor · 2018-05-31T17:24:00+00:00

I wouldn't say its a ultimate miss. Just when you see them again, be active. Like, just do what you already been doing as they walk into the bowling section. I got replies from posters who got out of the friend zone.

jeceandgin · 2018-06-01T14:19:11+00:00

This has totally been my mistake too. I've gotten to the point where I am a lot more confident and can talk to women, but I never make my intentions known. I guess I just didn't know the best way.

I recently told a girl I've been hanging out with straight up that I liked her and it actually worked out for me. I said it in a playful way like "You know, I kinda like you, you're alright and sometimes you're even fun to hangout with" and it got a laugh and good response. I definitely think having fun and saying things in a relaxed manner helps with stuff like this

Does anyone have a favorite way to show you're interested? Is it as simple as complimenting her or should you flat out tell her? In my example I flat out told the girl but I've read that actions speak louder than words and you should keep her guessing so I'm not sure

Ly76 · 2018-06-02T06:39:32+00:00

I am in the same position. I see how girls flaunt themselves around me and show me how much they would like to date me. But I never go up to them straight forward and say “Let’s go on a date, what day are you free” so I put myself in a position I need to get back from

Title	Finally realised a big mistake i made.
Author	Douchelampe
Upvotes	36
Comments	18
Date	May 31, 2018 1:07 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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