Do you have an "imaginary audience" that is always following you around and judging you? This feeling that we are always being watched can become a great source of social anxiety and insecurity.

ethical_pa · 2018-05-31T23:02:39+00:00

This is often a big factor in approach anxiety and giving off bad vibes in general. It's brought about by the fact that you might be in your head, thinking you are "running game/doing weird and shady things" while out during day or night game. Once you feel like you are operating outside the norms of society, you often imagine this audience. Like everyone is watching you and you'll be found out; "Hey everyone! Look at this guy! He's doing game/pickup!".

If you were just a guy minding your own business and having fun, you wouldn't be so preoccupied with others around you. You end up giving off bad vibes if you aren't. Just a weird, frenetic energy about you. Squirrelly eye movements, constantly looking around to see if someone is watching you, etc. You just give off a vibe of being a sketchy guy, doing weird shit. Not good.

It helps to just calm yourself down by being present (regular meditation helps), and forgetting about DOING anything for a while, and just relaxing and BEING in your environment.

TyroneTheSavage · 2018-05-31T22:36:33+00:00

Hummm, I think that is how it can feel when you are out of your element.

But, it's based in narcissistic tendencies.

This goes away when you realize, no one really gives a shit about you lol.

When I get socially anxious, I remind myself that I'll never see these people again, I don't give a shit about them and they don't give a shit about me. Boom, you are free of that feeling

ThrowawayPUA · 2018-05-31T22:52:40+00:00

I saw what you did.

2018-06-01T04:08:21+00:00

In theory, that's great.

In practice, if you do dumb shit, people will notice and will judge.

recyclablebanthas · 2018-06-01T16:42:38+00:00

James Marshall gets into a really good way to unravel your anxiety by turning your focus towards examination of the physical sensations coming from the anxiety. This has a way of untangling the anxiety.

You can also develop awareness of your thoughts/self-awareness, to combat anxiety. Here's a summary of what being self-awareness looks like. Developing this gives you the choice to deal with your anxiety by preempting thought patterns that represent the foundation that anxiety builds its house on.

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