Confidence in ruins

RunawayGrain · 2014-12-29T22:04:32+00:00

Pick up a copy of "No More More Mr. Nice Guy." I believe it's on the side bar.

See the narrative that's spoon fed to us is that we need a woman to feel complete, and that handsome prince charming will just waltz in to find a perfectly compatible Cinderella waiting just for him! The reality is that following that narrative is pinning the responsibility for your fulfillment on another person. People have notoriously bad reliability in that regard. Focus on achieving the goals that will bring you to self fulfillment.

If you aren't happy with yourself, it bleeds into other areas as well. Keep up with the education, hopefully in a STEM field, keep up with the lifting, and keep working towards self improvement.

jdoe5 · 2014-12-29T23:14:32+00:00

I'm the same kind of person as you, where I can never really be happy about myself. Two things help me:

1.) realize that the attitude you have now is what will get you better. Losers/betas don't think they're wrong; they don't see room for growth. You see your flaws. You know what you have to fix. It won't happen overnight, but you will get there.

2.) your mind is driving you crazy because you're trying to fix all your problems and become perfect at once. Which is just unrealistic. It takes time, man. Just pick one thing to work on, and take it slow. Patience is key. A year from now, you won't even think about how long it's been, and you'll be amazed by how far you've come.

Again, I feel you on this one dude. It sucks. It takes time, but you'll get there.

GentleGiant350 · 2014-12-30T00:37:27+00:00

Focus on you. Improve you. If you don't love and respect yourself, you cannot expect anyone else to. Fix that first.

Masonjarteadrinker2 · 2014-12-30T17:02:12+00:00

If you keep working on yourself I promise that it's going to get better, I used to feel that way and once in a while I still do but it's gotten wayyy better.

Title	Confidence in ruins
Author	ForWARdTRP
Upvotes	0
Comments	10
Date	December 29, 2014 9:47 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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