Hello everyone.

I'm a 29 year old Hispanic guy living in Southeastern China. I've been living out here for about a year, and I intend to stay here until next summer at least before moving on. My problem has to do with closing and reading signals. Let's start at the beginning.

I have made many great strides when it comes to women. I work as an ESL teacher and in my office, there are many more women here than there are men, and I'm the only single straight guy at my school.

Working with and being friends with women has helped me immensely. That image of women being scary and unobtainable pretty much dies when you work alongside them. There are just people with hopes, goals, fears, flaws, virtues, etc. Its just that a good number of them like to sleep with men sometimes.

Over this last year, I've developed crushes on two of my coworkers: One who left a few months ago, and another who left today. While I have a rule on not dating coworkers, this is the kind of industry where most people only stay for a year. So I didn't do anything about these crushes. I kept my relationships with them friendly, but professional.

Well, it turns out Girl #1 was giving me signals for months that I didn't pick up on until I was told she liked me back. At that moment, it was like seeing your life flash before your eyes, only it was about all the missed signals that were really obvious in retrospect.

Girl #2 was seeing a guy out here until they broke it off. Her last couple of weeks were full of social events like bar hopping, art shows, and such that served as a last hurrah for her. After getting back home from the bar at 5am after seeing England beat Tunisia, we got to talking outside her apartment. We hugged, said we were gonna miss each other, and I kissed her on the cheek. She then kissed me on my lips and we sort of made out for a bit. Part of me wanted to take her up to her apartment, but part of me also knew this seemed weird and it wouldn't happen. She hadn't finished packing, her flight left in 10 hours, and I had a gig. I just said goodbye and I left.

So that is my problem: I have trouble reading signals and pulling the trigger with women early and decisively. A girl pretty much has to be blunt with me to go for it. I guess it has to do with my inexperience and insecurity as a guy. I don't have much experience with casual sex. I've had a couple of FWBs, but I've never taken someone home. I don't know when to make moves. I know about escalating physically and I've gotten numbers here and there (which have usually led to nothing), but I don't know how to cross that point that separates me from guy who seems friendly to guy women could sleep with.

What worries me is if I get it wrong? If I go for a kiss, is it considered assault? Can I still maintain a friendly relationship with this woman if I'm rebuffed? I have no idea what I'm doing, and that worries me at the age of 30. I should have known better.

So yeah, any tips?

TL:DR - Guy is getting easy layups with women, can't follow through and finish, can't read signals, no idea what to do.